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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 751695" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Welcome to this forum. I have found much help here. I am so sorry you find yourself in such a difficult and heart breaking position. To have such high hopes for a son's future and then have him make such a turn is terribly tough. </p><p></p><p>Yes, boundaries still apply to mentally ill persons and addiction is a mental illness. It sounds to me that his addiction to the seeds plays a large role. On the internet I found the following: It’s classed as a Schedule III substance by the DEA, with a “moderate to low potential for physical and psychological dependence.” Other drugs in the same classification family are codeine and ketamine, although the Morning Glory flower is much easier and much less sketchy to obtain."</p><p></p><p>The psychosis could be induced by the seeds, so who knows whether the diagnosis is correct. It would all depend whether your son disclosed his drug use. It is interesting that he denies having a mental illness as I think this is more the case with borderline personality disorder than bipolar . Could it be "just" drug addiction? </p><p></p><p>All mental health issues including addiction are illnesses. And it does feel horrible and awful to let go of a loved one who is ill. Unfortunately, with mental health issues, we get into the situation of needing to protect ourselves first. So when your son is abusive in your home and you are tiptoeing around him, you are not able to live your life in peace and equanimity. Nobody deserves abuse. You could set a stipulation that when your son is ready to get off drugs and attends AA or NA that you will consider letting him come home. This is best presented when he feels low after coming off the drugs. He probably cut ties right now because you would not "help" anymore .He lived on your dime in some pretty expensive places so when you cut him off, he probably got very angry.</p><p></p><p>How long has it been that he has not contacted you? Please also know that your husband can only make decisions for himself, not for you. If you wish to maintain contact , you can. Could you find out where your son is from a family member or friend and go see him? Start a friendly dialogue in a public place,so when he gets abusive , you can leave?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 751695, member: 24254"] Welcome to this forum. I have found much help here. I am so sorry you find yourself in such a difficult and heart breaking position. To have such high hopes for a son's future and then have him make such a turn is terribly tough. Yes, boundaries still apply to mentally ill persons and addiction is a mental illness. It sounds to me that his addiction to the seeds plays a large role. On the internet I found the following: It’s classed as a Schedule III substance by the DEA, with a “moderate to low potential for physical and psychological dependence.” Other drugs in the same classification family are codeine and ketamine, although the Morning Glory flower is much easier and much less sketchy to obtain." The psychosis could be induced by the seeds, so who knows whether the diagnosis is correct. It would all depend whether your son disclosed his drug use. It is interesting that he denies having a mental illness as I think this is more the case with borderline personality disorder than bipolar . Could it be "just" drug addiction? All mental health issues including addiction are illnesses. And it does feel horrible and awful to let go of a loved one who is ill. Unfortunately, with mental health issues, we get into the situation of needing to protect ourselves first. So when your son is abusive in your home and you are tiptoeing around him, you are not able to live your life in peace and equanimity. Nobody deserves abuse. You could set a stipulation that when your son is ready to get off drugs and attends AA or NA that you will consider letting him come home. This is best presented when he feels low after coming off the drugs. He probably cut ties right now because you would not "help" anymore .He lived on your dime in some pretty expensive places so when you cut him off, he probably got very angry. How long has it been that he has not contacted you? Please also know that your husband can only make decisions for himself, not for you. If you wish to maintain contact , you can. Could you find out where your son is from a family member or friend and go see him? Start a friendly dialogue in a public place,so when he gets abusive , you can leave? [/QUOTE]
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