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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 365070" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I am in the process of making a plan. Well.......I'm trying to. Susie I had to laugh when you mentioned husband waffling.........because well.........it's awful but I am the one with a parental bond with K, not husband. He would have a cow if she showed up here expecting to move in. The decision though rests completely with me. Anything concerning our children does, it's been that way from the beginning, it always will be.</p><p></p><p>They will not as a family live with us. That will never happen. Three adults who are able to work and who should know better........I've got absolutely no sympathy or even empathy for. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> I can honestly say that it would not affect me at all knowing those 3 were sleeping on the street doing without.........because they've done it to themselves. </p><p></p><p>The grands, on the other hand, are another matter. They are at the mercy of their parents stupidity. Kayla and Alex have never lived anywhere long term, never even owned anything longer than a few months. What pictures there are of them I have.........because I know from past experience any she had were left behind. God only knows what they have/are living thru. I try hard not to think about it because it makes it easier to detach.</p><p></p><p>I think eventually she will wind up here, on my doorstep. I think that has been the plan all along..........but when I didn't fall for her pity me routine and bring them here, they decided to make there way here in hopes of forcing my hand when they get here.</p><p></p><p>Won't happen. Same for easy child and Nichole. This is not the case of omg I just lost my job, my home........This is I'm too lazy to keep a job/work......sponging off anyone and everyone.....Big difference.</p><p></p><p>I've not made a decision as far as the grands. There I am torn. No child should have to live such a life. I would not hesitate to take Kayla and Alex into my home. It wouldn't be easy, but I would without even thinking hard on it. But Evan.......and this makes me feel like a horrible person.........I have no bond with.......and is omg the wild child from hades, no discipline whatsoever can't even keep clothes on the kid, rips destructive as all get out.........Could most likely give many of the difficult children here a run for their money. Maybe it's due to autism......maybe it's due to abuse, neglect, and horrible parenting. I dunno. But I recoil at the thought of bringing him into my home. And like I said.....makes me feel horrible just to say that. But it is the truth. And I have to be honest with myself in this. And I don't know how I can justify taking the older 2 and not him. But I know it would take husband 5 mins of such behavior before he'd blow his top........and I'm not sure how much patience I'd have either. I'm not as young as I used to be.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>So that is where I'm stuck. If I did bring the grands into my home I would insist on custody for many reasons. Otherwise I wouldn't even consider it. </p><p></p><p>Just can not believe, can not fathom the mindset of K and her husband.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 365070, member: 84"] I am in the process of making a plan. Well.......I'm trying to. Susie I had to laugh when you mentioned husband waffling.........because well.........it's awful but I am the one with a parental bond with K, not husband. He would have a cow if she showed up here expecting to move in. The decision though rests completely with me. Anything concerning our children does, it's been that way from the beginning, it always will be. They will not as a family live with us. That will never happen. Three adults who are able to work and who should know better........I've got absolutely no sympathy or even empathy for. :angry: I can honestly say that it would not affect me at all knowing those 3 were sleeping on the street doing without.........because they've done it to themselves. The grands, on the other hand, are another matter. They are at the mercy of their parents stupidity. Kayla and Alex have never lived anywhere long term, never even owned anything longer than a few months. What pictures there are of them I have.........because I know from past experience any she had were left behind. God only knows what they have/are living thru. I try hard not to think about it because it makes it easier to detach. I think eventually she will wind up here, on my doorstep. I think that has been the plan all along..........but when I didn't fall for her pity me routine and bring them here, they decided to make there way here in hopes of forcing my hand when they get here. Won't happen. Same for easy child and Nichole. This is not the case of omg I just lost my job, my home........This is I'm too lazy to keep a job/work......sponging off anyone and everyone.....Big difference. I've not made a decision as far as the grands. There I am torn. No child should have to live such a life. I would not hesitate to take Kayla and Alex into my home. It wouldn't be easy, but I would without even thinking hard on it. But Evan.......and this makes me feel like a horrible person.........I have no bond with.......and is omg the wild child from hades, no discipline whatsoever can't even keep clothes on the kid, rips destructive as all get out.........Could most likely give many of the difficult children here a run for their money. Maybe it's due to autism......maybe it's due to abuse, neglect, and horrible parenting. I dunno. But I recoil at the thought of bringing him into my home. And like I said.....makes me feel horrible just to say that. But it is the truth. And I have to be honest with myself in this. And I don't know how I can justify taking the older 2 and not him. But I know it would take husband 5 mins of such behavior before he'd blow his top........and I'm not sure how much patience I'd have either. I'm not as young as I used to be.:frowny: So that is where I'm stuck. If I did bring the grands into my home I would insist on custody for many reasons. Otherwise I wouldn't even consider it. Just can not believe, can not fathom the mindset of K and her husband. [/QUOTE]
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