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Divorce in 2013. Does an intact family help the children?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 592418" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If marriage doesn't work, or it doesn't matter if kids come from intact families, is my daughter Julie right then? She doesn't ever want to marry her SO, but she does want kids. When I asked G., her SO, why he said, "If we had been married, we would have been divorced fourteen times already, but we're still together." I thought this was interesting. The two of them do fight and make up and love each other and have never loved anyone else. But divorce is "hot button." Somebody does something wrong and if you are married there is the sometimes sensible solution and sometimes revenge of divorce.I read that marriage is at an all time low. </p><p></p><p>I never encourage Julie to marry G. I think things are fine with them the way they are, minus the fact that they don't share a few marriage bennies. I am an avid NPR listener and a few guests have come on talking about how marriage is so much less important now to young people who live in seas of divorces. I hope I don't sound radical here, but I think this makes sense. I really didn't want to marry the second time that I did. I married legally only because we wanted to adopt children and, at the time, that required marriage. I don't think it does anymore. I mean, this second marriage is very happy, but I consider THAT partly luck.</p><p></p><p>Jumper likes to watch the show about girls buying bridal gowns for $10,000. I am so cynical that I chuckle to myself while watching and think, "And you'll be divorced in ten years and that dress will have been a big waste of money."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 592418, member: 1550"] If marriage doesn't work, or it doesn't matter if kids come from intact families, is my daughter Julie right then? She doesn't ever want to marry her SO, but she does want kids. When I asked G., her SO, why he said, "If we had been married, we would have been divorced fourteen times already, but we're still together." I thought this was interesting. The two of them do fight and make up and love each other and have never loved anyone else. But divorce is "hot button." Somebody does something wrong and if you are married there is the sometimes sensible solution and sometimes revenge of divorce.I read that marriage is at an all time low. I never encourage Julie to marry G. I think things are fine with them the way they are, minus the fact that they don't share a few marriage bennies. I am an avid NPR listener and a few guests have come on talking about how marriage is so much less important now to young people who live in seas of divorces. I hope I don't sound radical here, but I think this makes sense. I really didn't want to marry the second time that I did. I married legally only because we wanted to adopt children and, at the time, that required marriage. I don't think it does anymore. I mean, this second marriage is very happy, but I consider THAT partly luck. Jumper likes to watch the show about girls buying bridal gowns for $10,000. I am so cynical that I chuckle to myself while watching and think, "And you'll be divorced in ten years and that dress will have been a big waste of money." [/QUOTE]
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