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Divorce in 2013. Does an intact family help the children?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 592426" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Marriage has never been quite as biggy here than in most western world for several cultural and geographical reasons. However it has been last 30 years when not getting married has become really common. Also getting married later is very common. I think half of first-borns are born outside of marriage nowadays. Most have parents who live together in committed relationship but have not yet married for reason or another. It is also very common to get married as a surprise in your first-born's Christening ceremony. </p><p></p><p>I simply can't see marriage as ultimate commitment. A mortgage is bigger. (Of course we don't have alimony...) And have a kid with someone and you are tied to that person for rest of your life. Definitely much bigger. </p><p></p><p>However I did want to marry. It is legal contract and it has lots of meaning that way. And if not married (and only with prenup that only covers assets we had before marriage and inheritance), I would never had become a stay-at-home mom for several years. That would had been too risky without marriage and husband paying towards my retirement insurance. And difficult child really needed those years and I enjoyed them. They also helped husband's career. But without marriage covering my rear end? No way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 592426, member: 14557"] Marriage has never been quite as biggy here than in most western world for several cultural and geographical reasons. However it has been last 30 years when not getting married has become really common. Also getting married later is very common. I think half of first-borns are born outside of marriage nowadays. Most have parents who live together in committed relationship but have not yet married for reason or another. It is also very common to get married as a surprise in your first-born's Christening ceremony. I simply can't see marriage as ultimate commitment. A mortgage is bigger. (Of course we don't have alimony...) And have a kid with someone and you are tied to that person for rest of your life. Definitely much bigger. However I did want to marry. It is legal contract and it has lots of meaning that way. And if not married (and only with prenup that only covers assets we had before marriage and inheritance), I would never had become a stay-at-home mom for several years. That would had been too risky without marriage and husband paying towards my retirement insurance. And difficult child really needed those years and I enjoyed them. They also helped husband's career. But without marriage covering my rear end? No way. [/QUOTE]
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