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Divorce in 2013. Does an intact family help the children?
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<blockquote data-quote="Dixies_fire" data-source="post: 592428" data-attributes="member: 16184"><p>I told hubs I didn't really feel like it was necessary to get married. It didn't change anything for us for a while when we were both in the army and we knew we were going to have to endure a six month long army imposed separation because of his orders.</p><p></p><p>In my opinion men still have too many entitlement issues. </p><p>If we weren't married I'd be eligible for half a dozen benefits that while they wouldn't be comfortable would enable me to leave this house, go back to work, take my possessions that I acquired before our relationship with minimal legal fuss, maybe a police officer visit. Food stamps, section 8, free day care. You name it. </p><p></p><p>If I left today with all of my children. I'd have a car that I'd have to drive cross country to get to anyone I know. Live in a shelter, be homeless probably to convince someone I needed help and wasn't trying to run a scam. Run the risk of them denying me benefits because I was still married. Move into a apartment without any furniture because it would still be here in this house. </p><p></p><p>This wasn't really the case with my first marriage as I was the bread winner, we both had family locally. And my ex did lose some of the things he felt he was "entitled" to because of our divorce. But he left with what he came with and a few other things besides. So too bad so sad. </p><p></p><p>If we weren't married he probably wouldn't be such a butt hole cause he thinks I would leave.</p><p>I get Julie's view point.</p><p></p><p>It's an ugly</p><p>Unnecessary business that allows people treat you poorly.</p><p>But I'm totally biased at this time.</p><p>But I mean that's what divorce is about. </p><p>My marriage might fall apart because of hubs mental illness and he isn't going to be fair if I leave. He would not assist me in removing myself from his presence, he would not be civil about it at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dixies_fire, post: 592428, member: 16184"] I told hubs I didn't really feel like it was necessary to get married. It didn't change anything for us for a while when we were both in the army and we knew we were going to have to endure a six month long army imposed separation because of his orders. In my opinion men still have too many entitlement issues. If we weren't married I'd be eligible for half a dozen benefits that while they wouldn't be comfortable would enable me to leave this house, go back to work, take my possessions that I acquired before our relationship with minimal legal fuss, maybe a police officer visit. Food stamps, section 8, free day care. You name it. If I left today with all of my children. I'd have a car that I'd have to drive cross country to get to anyone I know. Live in a shelter, be homeless probably to convince someone I needed help and wasn't trying to run a scam. Run the risk of them denying me benefits because I was still married. Move into a apartment without any furniture because it would still be here in this house. This wasn't really the case with my first marriage as I was the bread winner, we both had family locally. And my ex did lose some of the things he felt he was "entitled" to because of our divorce. But he left with what he came with and a few other things besides. So too bad so sad. If we weren't married he probably wouldn't be such a butt hole cause he thinks I would leave. I get Julie's view point. It's an ugly Unnecessary business that allows people treat you poorly. But I'm totally biased at this time. But I mean that's what divorce is about. My marriage might fall apart because of hubs mental illness and he isn't going to be fair if I leave. He would not assist me in removing myself from his presence, he would not be civil about it at all. [/QUOTE]
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