Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Do difficult child's ever respect the hands that feed them?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Winnielg" data-source="post: 585504" data-attributes="member: 16059"><p>It always amazes me how my difficult child thinks that by throwing a tantrum, acting violent or making threats will work for him to get his way. My husband and I have NEVER given in, changed our minds or gone back on a punishment/consequence. That was something we learned early from all the care providers and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) specialists we worked with over the years. Even on Saturday night after difficult child violated house rules AGAIN and then lied about it and became aggressive and confrontational, my husband remained calm and consistent. So while I think consistency, neutral or bland responses are important, I really wonder sometimes why my difficult child thinks these tactics will get him what he wants. </p><p></p><p>And I know how you feel Wake about being scared to even ask difficult child to take care of his dishes. We have gone thru the same thing. That makes me wonder if while the above tactics do not work to change our minds, I wonder if he thinks if he keeps doing it we will stop expecting him to pick up after himself, have personal responsibility and be an active contributing member of our household. He has made rude and disrespectful comments about us bothering him with trivial things when he is busy (like on facebook... geesh, really??)</p><p></p><p>On a side note, a few years ago, my husband and I decided our whole house had Aspergers as we would panic if bedtime was not at the exact time every night - all parents know it is hard to be on a exact schedule. But we could never says "Oh its okay if you go to bed 20 minutes later" because then the next night that was the new time to difficult child, period. Of course if it was 20 minutes early, he would not try to institute the new time. LOL This is one example of House Aspergers, but we learned to relax and deal with issues like that as they came up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Winnielg, post: 585504, member: 16059"] It always amazes me how my difficult child thinks that by throwing a tantrum, acting violent or making threats will work for him to get his way. My husband and I have NEVER given in, changed our minds or gone back on a punishment/consequence. That was something we learned early from all the care providers and Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) specialists we worked with over the years. Even on Saturday night after difficult child violated house rules AGAIN and then lied about it and became aggressive and confrontational, my husband remained calm and consistent. So while I think consistency, neutral or bland responses are important, I really wonder sometimes why my difficult child thinks these tactics will get him what he wants. And I know how you feel Wake about being scared to even ask difficult child to take care of his dishes. We have gone thru the same thing. That makes me wonder if while the above tactics do not work to change our minds, I wonder if he thinks if he keeps doing it we will stop expecting him to pick up after himself, have personal responsibility and be an active contributing member of our household. He has made rude and disrespectful comments about us bothering him with trivial things when he is busy (like on facebook... geesh, really??) On a side note, a few years ago, my husband and I decided our whole house had Aspergers as we would panic if bedtime was not at the exact time every night - all parents know it is hard to be on a exact schedule. But we could never says "Oh its okay if you go to bed 20 minutes later" because then the next night that was the new time to difficult child, period. Of course if it was 20 minutes early, he would not try to institute the new time. LOL This is one example of House Aspergers, but we learned to relax and deal with issues like that as they came up. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Do difficult child's ever respect the hands that feed them?
Top