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Do difficult child's ever respect the hands that feed them?
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 585512" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Winnielg, I really like that phrase "House Aspergers". Around the Trinity household, we call it Binary. As in something is either 100% on or 100% off, with no middle ground (this is what you get from a houseful of computer geek-people). What it means in practical terms is that, once a rule is set, it's set in stone. If something needs to change, we switch off the old rule and institute a new one.</p><p></p><p>Example: </p><p>difficult child's medications are strongly tied to blood serum levels, so his sleep and eating schedules have to be timed closely. That means that bed time is 9:00 pm for him, no matter what. If his medications change and his bed time has to change with them, then we remove the 9:00 pm bedtime rule, and implement a 9:30 pm (or whatever) bed time. Changing the rule doesn't work nearly as well for some reason, as it introduces flexibility into the whole rule structure, and then he feels the need to test the fences with ALL rules, not just the one being changed.</p><p></p><p>I think our difficult children need a level of stability that the rest of us can barely begin to understand. One of difficult child's tdocs said, "He works very well when cornered like a rat in a trap." Take the decisions out of the mix and he does much better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 585512, member: 3907"] Winnielg, I really like that phrase "House Aspergers". Around the Trinity household, we call it Binary. As in something is either 100% on or 100% off, with no middle ground (this is what you get from a houseful of computer geek-people). What it means in practical terms is that, once a rule is set, it's set in stone. If something needs to change, we switch off the old rule and institute a new one. Example: difficult child's medications are strongly tied to blood serum levels, so his sleep and eating schedules have to be timed closely. That means that bed time is 9:00 pm for him, no matter what. If his medications change and his bed time has to change with them, then we remove the 9:00 pm bedtime rule, and implement a 9:30 pm (or whatever) bed time. Changing the rule doesn't work nearly as well for some reason, as it introduces flexibility into the whole rule structure, and then he feels the need to test the fences with ALL rules, not just the one being changed. I think our difficult children need a level of stability that the rest of us can barely begin to understand. One of difficult child's tdocs said, "He works very well when cornered like a rat in a trap." Take the decisions out of the mix and he does much better. [/QUOTE]
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