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Do others feel this way with other children too?
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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 752912" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>Louise, It is not you. Our CD adult children make up stories as part of their manipulation, which is a result of something within them that only they can address. Getting to a place of acceptance and some semblance of peace is a process, like grieving. For me, it has come in stages over the last 20 years, my daughter is 41. I hate that our children are able to put us in defense mode, because that means we aren't setting healthy boundaries for ourselves. Why do we think we should take responsibility for things or actions that are simply not true? For me, that part has gotten better as I have learned to let go. Now I work hard to focus only on the facts and check my emotions. Outsiders probably think I have become hard. Nothing could be further from the truth, but that is something only we would know. I have definitely done well with letting that one go. I really don't care what they think. I am doing what I need to do for myself, so I can be there for those who want me in their life. My son has said to me that he would like our time together to be just about us. I have books in my signature line that I have found helpful and now I have this group. No judgement, no fear of sharing, and lifting each other up.</p><p></p><p>In healing</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 752912, member: 23811"] Louise, It is not you. Our CD adult children make up stories as part of their manipulation, which is a result of something within them that only they can address. Getting to a place of acceptance and some semblance of peace is a process, like grieving. For me, it has come in stages over the last 20 years, my daughter is 41. I hate that our children are able to put us in defense mode, because that means we aren't setting healthy boundaries for ourselves. Why do we think we should take responsibility for things or actions that are simply not true? For me, that part has gotten better as I have learned to let go. Now I work hard to focus only on the facts and check my emotions. Outsiders probably think I have become hard. Nothing could be further from the truth, but that is something only we would know. I have definitely done well with letting that one go. I really don't care what they think. I am doing what I need to do for myself, so I can be there for those who want me in their life. My son has said to me that he would like our time together to be just about us. I have books in my signature line that I have found helpful and now I have this group. No judgement, no fear of sharing, and lifting each other up. In healing [/QUOTE]
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