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Do others feel this way with other children too?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 752914" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>We are boldly sharing what we know of our lives with our very troubled, sad kids (with tears in our eyes).</p><p></p><p>Now, regardless of what Kay thinks or says, I know that Kay got more attention than my other two kids times three. The other kids know it too but they forgive us. A blessing. They could have been bitter and angry over it but they are not. Other kids WOULD have been.</p><p></p><p>Yet it is Kay as who feels as if she is not one of us and that she is a misfit. And that WE think so too. This is probably because she is adopted and very different in personality from the rest of us. Those are facts that can not be changed.</p><p></p><p>Nor is the fact that we spent most of our time trying to build her up and help her feel loved to the detriment of the other kids. </p><p></p><p>Feelings aren't facts. This is a big thing I learned in therapy and I believe it. Feelings are emotions. </p><p></p><p>We proudly embraced Kay as our first and very own beautiful child. We loved her to the moon. If she felt as if we didn't, then her feelings are and were never the facts. </p><p></p><p>I can't speak for anyone else and hurt for anyone who felt left out of his/her family. But many insecure people feel lesser than, when in fact their parents never really saw them as lesser. </p><p></p><p>We see this on the forum...I believe these parents all love their kids to the moon and always did. How their kids feel may not be how things are or were. I believe when a parent says her child twists reality. I see it with my own child. Feelings are not facts. Facts are facts.</p><p></p><p>I am tired again. Thinking of Kay tires me out and saddens me. </p><p></p><p>Peace and blessings to all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 752914, member: 23706"] We are boldly sharing what we know of our lives with our very troubled, sad kids (with tears in our eyes). Now, regardless of what Kay thinks or says, I know that Kay got more attention than my other two kids times three. The other kids know it too but they forgive us. A blessing. They could have been bitter and angry over it but they are not. Other kids WOULD have been. Yet it is Kay as who feels as if she is not one of us and that she is a misfit. And that WE think so too. This is probably because she is adopted and very different in personality from the rest of us. Those are facts that can not be changed. Nor is the fact that we spent most of our time trying to build her up and help her feel loved to the detriment of the other kids. Feelings aren't facts. This is a big thing I learned in therapy and I believe it. Feelings are emotions. We proudly embraced Kay as our first and very own beautiful child. We loved her to the moon. If she felt as if we didn't, then her feelings are and were never the facts. I can't speak for anyone else and hurt for anyone who felt left out of his/her family. But many insecure people feel lesser than, when in fact their parents never really saw them as lesser. We see this on the forum...I believe these parents all love their kids to the moon and always did. How their kids feel may not be how things are or were. I believe when a parent says her child twists reality. I see it with my own child. Feelings are not facts. Facts are facts. I am tired again. Thinking of Kay tires me out and saddens me. Peace and blessings to all. [/QUOTE]
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