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Do the holidays bother those of us with little to no FOO?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 672874" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>We do not have to believe that wrong is actually right. We don't have to accept that what our abusers did is actually right, in order to forgive.</p><p> </p><p>Yes, we have to learn to love and believe and accept ourselves, and what we have seen and been through. We can then <em>choose</em> to forgive, <em>choose</em> to love, as we see fit. Love, and forgiveness, and belief, are gifts we give ourselves and others, but they are GIFTS, not a right or expectation.</p><p> </p><p>I believe that things that were said and done, were wrong. I also believe that the outcome wasn't necessarily intended (in the case of my FOO, for the most part), which makes it easier to forgive the individuals, without changing how I see the experiences and the outcome. If that makes sense.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 672874, member: 11791"] We do not have to believe that wrong is actually right. We don't have to accept that what our abusers did is actually right, in order to forgive. Yes, we have to learn to love and believe and accept ourselves, and what we have seen and been through. We can then [I]choose[/I] to forgive, [I]choose[/I] to love, as we see fit. Love, and forgiveness, and belief, are gifts we give ourselves and others, but they are GIFTS, not a right or expectation. I believe that things that were said and done, were wrong. I also believe that the outcome wasn't necessarily intended (in the case of my FOO, for the most part), which makes it easier to forgive the individuals, without changing how I see the experiences and the outcome. If that makes sense. [/QUOTE]
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