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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 29136" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: skeeter</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I may be way off base here....</p><p></p><p>I've often thought that a person cannot really love another, if they don't at least like themself. I don't mean that in a "me first" way, but realize they are, down deep, a good human being, one capable of living a good life, etc.</p><p>If someone is harming themself - either by drugs, behavior, constant failure, etc. - they don't like themself very much.</p><p>And if they don't like themself, then how can they hope to really love another? </div></div></p><p></p><p>Skeeter - there was an author a while back named Leo Buscaglia. He wrote a book called "Love", and another book called "Living, Loving, Learning". I read both of them during some of my darker days in college, but one thing I do remember: he said that "if you want to find love, first make yourself into someone worth loving". And to do that, you must find something in yourself that YOU think is worth loving.</p><p></p><p>Made a huge impact on me, and to this day I still remember those words. That may be why so many difficult children turn their back on the people who love them most; they don't see anything in themselves worth loving, so they can't accept the love of someone else. They'll use excuses like "they're just trying to maniuplate me", or "they want something from me", or "they're not for real". But if any other kids out there are like my difficult child 1, it boils down to the fact that he can't see himself as having anything worth loving, so he shuns the true love of others - especially his parents.</p><p></p><p>It hurts, and I don't know what to do about it, but that's been my observation - for whatever it's worth.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 29136, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: skeeter</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I may be way off base here.... I've often thought that a person cannot really love another, if they don't at least like themself. I don't mean that in a "me first" way, but realize they are, down deep, a good human being, one capable of living a good life, etc. If someone is harming themself - either by drugs, behavior, constant failure, etc. - they don't like themself very much. And if they don't like themself, then how can they hope to really love another? </div></div> Skeeter - there was an author a while back named Leo Buscaglia. He wrote a book called "Love", and another book called "Living, Loving, Learning". I read both of them during some of my darker days in college, but one thing I do remember: he said that "if you want to find love, first make yourself into someone worth loving". And to do that, you must find something in yourself that YOU think is worth loving. Made a huge impact on me, and to this day I still remember those words. That may be why so many difficult children turn their back on the people who love them most; they don't see anything in themselves worth loving, so they can't accept the love of someone else. They'll use excuses like "they're just trying to maniuplate me", or "they want something from me", or "they're not for real". But if any other kids out there are like my difficult child 1, it boils down to the fact that he can't see himself as having anything worth loving, so he shuns the true love of others - especially his parents. It hurts, and I don't know what to do about it, but that's been my observation - for whatever it's worth. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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