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Do we get something out of enabling our grown kids?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 637559" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>MWM, you ARE courageous. Here's the irony for me now, I was the 'good one' in my family..........here is the quote from the same source.......</p><p></p><p>"a<em>ctually the good child - the family hero role -who is the most emotionally dishonest and out of touch with him/herself"</em></p><p></p><p>Getting out of that good girl role was a massive challenge, because I had no 'self,' I had to learn how to be as honest as you always were. My sister was that honest and she got hurt. I was the good one, I was "above" that. I was expected to be perfect and damn if I didn't try to be. I edited myself, held myself back, lied to myself, I was as far away from real as I could have gone........it was a LONG WAY HOME. </p><p></p><p>My sister once told me that being the 'good girl' was the worst role in the family because I was locked in and had absolutely no freedom to be anything but what was expected of me. It blew me away. That was a long time ago and she was so right and I heard her too. Thank God I was willing to listen and to change. </p><p></p><p>We're so fortunate we had the intense commitment to heal MWM, because we have. YAY!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 637559, member: 13542"] MWM, you ARE courageous. Here's the irony for me now, I was the 'good one' in my family..........here is the quote from the same source....... "a[I]ctually the good child - the family hero role -who is the most emotionally dishonest and out of touch with him/herself"[/I] Getting out of that good girl role was a massive challenge, because I had no 'self,' I had to learn how to be as honest as you always were. My sister was that honest and she got hurt. I was the good one, I was "above" that. I was expected to be perfect and damn if I didn't try to be. I edited myself, held myself back, lied to myself, I was as far away from real as I could have gone........it was a LONG WAY HOME. My sister once told me that being the 'good girl' was the worst role in the family because I was locked in and had absolutely no freedom to be anything but what was expected of me. It blew me away. That was a long time ago and she was so right and I heard her too. Thank God I was willing to listen and to change. We're so fortunate we had the intense commitment to heal MWM, because we have. YAY! [/QUOTE]
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