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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 265461" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>Yes, I did that. But, very, very rarely did my difficult child have a "good" day. And I would be miserable all day thinking about how miserable she was.</p><p></p><p>And then I realized that I had to stop. I realized that she could be having a great day and one little thing would go wrong and it would be a "horrible" day; and I had just wasted all that emotion over one little thing. (It also helped that I observed her in class a few times and saw for myself that she wasn't miserable all day.) </p><p></p><p>Instead, I allowed myself to feel miserable when I dropped her off - kind of hard not to when they are drying tears off their cheeks and mustering up all their courage just to walk into the school (it wasn't uncommon for me to cry all the way to work) - and when I picked her up. But, honestly, the misery with picking her up was hearing about how horrible her day was when I knew the whole day wasn't like that...and just trying to figure out how to help her see that.</p><p></p><p>I had to limit my emotions when I was away from difficult child or I wouldn't have any left to be able to deal with her and help her cope.</p><p></p><p>It's hard. Anxiety bites.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 265461, member: 7083"] Yes, I did that. But, very, very rarely did my difficult child have a "good" day. And I would be miserable all day thinking about how miserable she was. And then I realized that I had to stop. I realized that she could be having a great day and one little thing would go wrong and it would be a "horrible" day; and I had just wasted all that emotion over one little thing. (It also helped that I observed her in class a few times and saw for myself that she wasn't miserable all day.) Instead, I allowed myself to feel miserable when I dropped her off - kind of hard not to when they are drying tears off their cheeks and mustering up all their courage just to walk into the school (it wasn't uncommon for me to cry all the way to work) - and when I picked her up. But, honestly, the misery with picking her up was hearing about how horrible her day was when I knew the whole day wasn't like that...and just trying to figure out how to help her see that. I had to limit my emotions when I was away from difficult child or I wouldn't have any left to be able to deal with her and help her cope. It's hard. Anxiety bites. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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