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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 210672" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>I just yesterday had to take away all of K's sewing stuff, crochet knitting etc.</p><p>It all started with a latch hook rug and pot holder maker. These were to be here starting points for something she wanted to do. </p><p>We had long discussions about how we start with something small. Baby steps and move forward from there.</p><p>So I bought her the easiest, latch hook rug. And Pot holder makers. She started off OK, a year ago... she has kind of slipped downhill, but has never moved forward. I sit with her and we work on it and try. </p><p>She wants to knit. She can't until she can get the basics. </p><p>So yesterday she broke down, freaked out. I let her and then had the talk. I would not let her just jump into pool without lessons first... all of that kind of talk.</p><p>I told her I was taking away all of her knitting, crocheting, sewing kits that people have bought her until she can show me that is able to start working on the other 2 things. I took the latch hook and the pot holder thing away as well. Just for awhile. I told her I thought it was causing her too much stress. </p><p></p><p>So maybe with a easy child child I would have pushed more and said , "You asked for these, you have to try harder and finish them" or just pushed harder.</p><p></p><p>But I can see mentally and physically right now that she is not capable. I will help her when she is. </p><p>Our schedule does run according mostly to our kids. K has to eat about 5ish. She needs to or it causes her to have issues. </p><p>We have to get her ready for bed around 6:30 so then when and if she has a breakdown we will not be fighting her on getting dressed, brushing teeth, taking medications. We have learned to time things when she is doing well, knowing that she starts to fall apart at certain times. </p><p></p><p>Right now, she woke very early,manic, talking to her fairies, so we need to keep her calm. So we can not do anything today. </p><p>To bad... that is life. She needs to be kept calm, she is sitting in a laundry basket with her stuffed animal and blanket watching a very little kid show. </p><p>(I get to watch football though!)</p><p>But I kind of knew we would have a hard day today, for us, K can only do one thing on one day. Yesterday we went and saw "Ralphs World" Live in Concert... K danced the whole time and he lets the kids get up on stage at the end and she danced right with him!!! Then we got something to eat and then we walked over to a play area across the street for a whole 20 minutes. </p><p>The concert was 1 hour.</p><p>So that was enough to wreck her for today. So our provisions today are to help her. Yes that may be give in to some of her emotions.</p><p>But like I have said before, K is not manipulative. </p><p>She is just one messed up little kid.... </p><p>I would do anything to lift this kid up and I will do anything to hold her close.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 210672, member: 3155"] I just yesterday had to take away all of K's sewing stuff, crochet knitting etc. It all started with a latch hook rug and pot holder maker. These were to be here starting points for something she wanted to do. We had long discussions about how we start with something small. Baby steps and move forward from there. So I bought her the easiest, latch hook rug. And Pot holder makers. She started off OK, a year ago... she has kind of slipped downhill, but has never moved forward. I sit with her and we work on it and try. She wants to knit. She can't until she can get the basics. So yesterday she broke down, freaked out. I let her and then had the talk. I would not let her just jump into pool without lessons first... all of that kind of talk. I told her I was taking away all of her knitting, crocheting, sewing kits that people have bought her until she can show me that is able to start working on the other 2 things. I took the latch hook and the pot holder thing away as well. Just for awhile. I told her I thought it was causing her too much stress. So maybe with a easy child child I would have pushed more and said , "You asked for these, you have to try harder and finish them" or just pushed harder. But I can see mentally and physically right now that she is not capable. I will help her when she is. Our schedule does run according mostly to our kids. K has to eat about 5ish. She needs to or it causes her to have issues. We have to get her ready for bed around 6:30 so then when and if she has a breakdown we will not be fighting her on getting dressed, brushing teeth, taking medications. We have learned to time things when she is doing well, knowing that she starts to fall apart at certain times. Right now, she woke very early,manic, talking to her fairies, so we need to keep her calm. So we can not do anything today. To bad... that is life. She needs to be kept calm, she is sitting in a laundry basket with her stuffed animal and blanket watching a very little kid show. (I get to watch football though!) But I kind of knew we would have a hard day today, for us, K can only do one thing on one day. Yesterday we went and saw "Ralphs World" Live in Concert... K danced the whole time and he lets the kids get up on stage at the end and she danced right with him!!! Then we got something to eat and then we walked over to a play area across the street for a whole 20 minutes. The concert was 1 hour. So that was enough to wreck her for today. So our provisions today are to help her. Yes that may be give in to some of her emotions. But like I have said before, K is not manipulative. She is just one messed up little kid.... I would do anything to lift this kid up and I will do anything to hold her close. [/QUOTE]
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