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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 58599" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Because I still have t he best of my wardrobe from the Seventies & Eighties, plus the best of my sisters' wardrobes from the Fifties & Sixties, I get 'raided' not only by my own kids, but by neighbourhood kids. And yes, a lot of it never comes back. But I know if I want it back, I just go and ask for it.</p><p></p><p>I also learned, years ago, to NEVER let anyone else wash anything they borrowed - return it dirty, honey, I'll take care of it. Because people tend to wash borrowed clothing in hot water on the industrial cycle. It doesn't do any good at all to wool, leather, satin or velvet, especially with boning. And it KILLS taffeta!</p><p></p><p>So get your daughter (or do it yourself) to ask for the clothes back as they are - in the wash? Just give it back to me as it is, even if it's wringing wet. No worries, I'll handle it. I'm glad you enjoyed wearing it.</p><p></p><p>Because then YOU are in control again over how the garment is treated (preferably with more respect than this sort of friend) as well as WHEN you get it back - some people are amazingly lax about when they get around to doing laundry, especially other people's.</p><p></p><p>I know I keep a very messy, unbelievably untidy house - but one thing I'm darned good at, is my laundry. It's untidy too, but what goes in for the wash will GET washed, properly, within the week (unless the weather is bad and I have to wait for clearer weather). Then what is on the clothes line gets air-dried, taken off the line, folded IMMEDIATELY and then put away immediately. Anything else means piles of clothes left to stagnate and fester. And crumple.</p><p></p><p>I do agree about getting her to buy her own clothes - if you buy stuff for her, there are a number of problems:</p><p></p><p>1) She mightn't be all that familiar with what she owns - "where did this striped top come from?"</p><p></p><p>2) She mightn't like what you buy for her enough to value it - "Yeah, you can borrow this blue top, it's not really my style anyway, it would look better on you." And finally</p><p></p><p>3) Since SHE didn't pay for it, and you keep buying her more stuff anyway, it's no big deal. If it doesn't come back, you'll soon buy her another one.</p><p></p><p>For a while, we told our kids that they had A$200 a year clothing budget. We would go shopping with them but THEY had veto. And if they went over the $200, they had to pay for anything more that year.</p><p>Then they got their own money and bought their own clothes - easy child 2/difficult child 2 has spent $200 on one item - a fully boned, velvet corset - and no way would she EVER lend that.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 58599, member: 1991"] Because I still have t he best of my wardrobe from the Seventies & Eighties, plus the best of my sisters' wardrobes from the Fifties & Sixties, I get 'raided' not only by my own kids, but by neighbourhood kids. And yes, a lot of it never comes back. But I know if I want it back, I just go and ask for it. I also learned, years ago, to NEVER let anyone else wash anything they borrowed - return it dirty, honey, I'll take care of it. Because people tend to wash borrowed clothing in hot water on the industrial cycle. It doesn't do any good at all to wool, leather, satin or velvet, especially with boning. And it KILLS taffeta! So get your daughter (or do it yourself) to ask for the clothes back as they are - in the wash? Just give it back to me as it is, even if it's wringing wet. No worries, I'll handle it. I'm glad you enjoyed wearing it. Because then YOU are in control again over how the garment is treated (preferably with more respect than this sort of friend) as well as WHEN you get it back - some people are amazingly lax about when they get around to doing laundry, especially other people's. I know I keep a very messy, unbelievably untidy house - but one thing I'm darned good at, is my laundry. It's untidy too, but what goes in for the wash will GET washed, properly, within the week (unless the weather is bad and I have to wait for clearer weather). Then what is on the clothes line gets air-dried, taken off the line, folded IMMEDIATELY and then put away immediately. Anything else means piles of clothes left to stagnate and fester. And crumple. I do agree about getting her to buy her own clothes - if you buy stuff for her, there are a number of problems: 1) She mightn't be all that familiar with what she owns - "where did this striped top come from?" 2) She mightn't like what you buy for her enough to value it - "Yeah, you can borrow this blue top, it's not really my style anyway, it would look better on you." And finally 3) Since SHE didn't pay for it, and you keep buying her more stuff anyway, it's no big deal. If it doesn't come back, you'll soon buy her another one. For a while, we told our kids that they had A$200 a year clothing budget. We would go shopping with them but THEY had veto. And if they went over the $200, they had to pay for anything more that year. Then they got their own money and bought their own clothes - easy child 2/difficult child 2 has spent $200 on one item - a fully boned, velvet corset - and no way would she EVER lend that. Marg [/QUOTE]
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