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Does anyone remember "Goodnight, Moon"?
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<blockquote data-quote="hearthope" data-source="post: 36304" data-attributes="member: 2389"><p>I was just going to post about leaving the board for a while. I am full of negative thoughts and I am not helping anyone with my negative responses. I thought I would give everyone a break until I could sort out my mess of thinking and reach a better state of mind....</p><p></p><p>But I saw your post and read it first. Yet again have you posted exactly what I need to read, just when I need to read it. </p><p></p><p>Your post made me think of husband's bro. He was injured at a rodeo,lived several yrs with no use of any limbs. If you went to a family gathering you would think he was still alive. Old stories are always brought up, laughter is usually in the middle of all the talking and his life is remembered in joy.</p><p></p><p>I think what happens is when we first have problems start. We are ashamed of what are children are doing. We try to hide the truth from others. That starts a huge snowball that leaves us to look to the only place we can find to put blame ~ ourselves.</p><p></p><p>As time goes on and more light is coming into what is really happening and we are forced to sit in front of others and tell the truth about our children...something happens.....we are questioned about how we raised our children and in our minds we think that not only do we think we did something wrong but here are all these people that feel the same way.</p><p></p><p>After we have our hearts shattered by our children and our very being shattered by the ones we seek out for help....We are left broken. But we are moms and we have other responsibilities, so we are left broken yet push on to the next crisis and the next. </p><p></p><p>That snowball that we started so long ago is huge now. It prevents others that know about our difficult children from asking about them for fear they will hit a nerve and it prevents us from sharing about our difficult children to others we meet for fear we will be judged for having raised such a child.</p><p></p><p>So we stay stuck in the same broken place, no wonder it is so hard to find our joy. I am sure each of us sits back and imagines what it is we had hoped our difficult children would be doing at this time in their life.</p><p></p><p>For me, I am supposed to be helping address graduation invitations now. I am also supposed to be running around finding stuff to put in his dorm room for college after of course we all met for him to sign his full scholarship from Auburn to play football.</p><p></p><p>And bless all our hearts ~~~ we do post on this board, but we have no one else to share this pain with. </p><p></p><p>P.S.</p><p></p><p>ANY BAG OF M&M's WILL DO!!! You can also dip a hershey bar into a jar of peanut butter, that helps too....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearthope, post: 36304, member: 2389"] I was just going to post about leaving the board for a while. I am full of negative thoughts and I am not helping anyone with my negative responses. I thought I would give everyone a break until I could sort out my mess of thinking and reach a better state of mind.... But I saw your post and read it first. Yet again have you posted exactly what I need to read, just when I need to read it. Your post made me think of husband's bro. He was injured at a rodeo,lived several yrs with no use of any limbs. If you went to a family gathering you would think he was still alive. Old stories are always brought up, laughter is usually in the middle of all the talking and his life is remembered in joy. I think what happens is when we first have problems start. We are ashamed of what are children are doing. We try to hide the truth from others. That starts a huge snowball that leaves us to look to the only place we can find to put blame ~ ourselves. As time goes on and more light is coming into what is really happening and we are forced to sit in front of others and tell the truth about our children...something happens.....we are questioned about how we raised our children and in our minds we think that not only do we think we did something wrong but here are all these people that feel the same way. After we have our hearts shattered by our children and our very being shattered by the ones we seek out for help....We are left broken. But we are moms and we have other responsibilities, so we are left broken yet push on to the next crisis and the next. That snowball that we started so long ago is huge now. It prevents others that know about our difficult children from asking about them for fear they will hit a nerve and it prevents us from sharing about our difficult children to others we meet for fear we will be judged for having raised such a child. So we stay stuck in the same broken place, no wonder it is so hard to find our joy. I am sure each of us sits back and imagines what it is we had hoped our difficult children would be doing at this time in their life. For me, I am supposed to be helping address graduation invitations now. I am also supposed to be running around finding stuff to put in his dorm room for college after of course we all met for him to sign his full scholarship from Auburn to play football. And bless all our hearts ~~~ we do post on this board, but we have no one else to share this pain with. P.S. ANY BAG OF M&M's WILL DO!!! You can also dip a hershey bar into a jar of peanut butter, that helps too.... [/QUOTE]
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