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Does anyone remember "Goodnight, Moon"?
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<blockquote data-quote="hearthope" data-source="post: 37237" data-attributes="member: 2389"><p>There is a holiday celebrated at your inlaws. 20+ people, some you see often and some only twice a year.</p><p></p><p>You all sit down to dinner. Everyone is catching up on all the happenings from the last get-together. How much so and so has grown. How proud so and so must be of their son, etc.</p><p></p><p>Not one person asks about difficult child.</p><p></p><p>At first you are relieved not to have to answer questions about how he is. Then you start to hurt, there had to be some announcement before you arrived letting everyone know not to ask you about him.</p><p></p><p>You sit in silence. You want to scream that you are doing all you can to handle your fragile life, but you sit in silence and choke the food down.</p><p></p><p>You finally get finished and rush to the car with little goodbyes. You drive down the road and burst to tears.</p><p></p><p>This is family. If you can't face family with difficult child issues ~ how on earth do you face others?</p><p></p><p>I am echoing Barbara ~~ I agree it is us that need to change, but I also am dumbfounded on how to do it.</p><p></p><p>I have allowed my difficult child to suck all the air out of my ballon. </p><p></p><p>I can't ever seem to let go and be okay if he is not okay.</p><p></p><p>I have learned to drudge on. But I have not learned to be happy again, really happy is something I have not experienced in a long time. If I am at my most treasured place, doing what I love to do, there is my difficult child in the back of my mind and my thoughts wander back to him. </p><p></p><p>I can push the worries out, but they always return</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearthope, post: 37237, member: 2389"] There is a holiday celebrated at your inlaws. 20+ people, some you see often and some only twice a year. You all sit down to dinner. Everyone is catching up on all the happenings from the last get-together. How much so and so has grown. How proud so and so must be of their son, etc. Not one person asks about difficult child. At first you are relieved not to have to answer questions about how he is. Then you start to hurt, there had to be some announcement before you arrived letting everyone know not to ask you about him. You sit in silence. You want to scream that you are doing all you can to handle your fragile life, but you sit in silence and choke the food down. You finally get finished and rush to the car with little goodbyes. You drive down the road and burst to tears. This is family. If you can't face family with difficult child issues ~ how on earth do you face others? I am echoing Barbara ~~ I agree it is us that need to change, but I also am dumbfounded on how to do it. I have allowed my difficult child to suck all the air out of my ballon. I can't ever seem to let go and be okay if he is not okay. I have learned to drudge on. But I have not learned to be happy again, really happy is something I have not experienced in a long time. If I am at my most treasured place, doing what I love to do, there is my difficult child in the back of my mind and my thoughts wander back to him. I can push the worries out, but they always return [/QUOTE]
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