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Does anyone tell others you have a difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="ROE" data-source="post: 40684" data-attributes="member: 2276"><p>I tell people on a need to know basis. </p><p></p><p>In elementary school difficult child never had behavioral problems in school (at home he was a nightmare). I told the school what medications he was taking but I never told them why and nobody ever asked. </p><p></p><p>His behavioral problems in school started in middle school. He was always getting into trouble. After a couple of teachers reported troubling "mood swings" I contacted all of his teachers for input thinking that a medication change might be in order. Eventually, I was called to the school for a meeting with AP, GC, and low and behold school pysch (not surprised but they could have told me that she would be included). I did come forward with the information on his diagnosis's. The reaction was mixed, but most of his teachers were a bit more understanding and willing to try to help the situation but some of them just drove me crazy.</p><p></p><p>When he started high school I kept quiet at first (it was all in his file if they really wanted to know). The year started out quiet, I thought no news was good news until I got to conferences (nobody bothered to contact me before). Man did I get an earful! I met with GC shortly after to discuss difficult child's issues. I don't know what I expected to accomplish. I was just hoping to keep difficult child from getting into too much trouble. GC blew me off told me he didn't have a behavioral problem (AP had told me the same thing). It was his grades they were worried about. One month later AP calls a meeting, "difficult child has had behavioral problems from the beginning and we are not going to tolerate it." I was not happy with their sudden change of attitude.</p><p></p><p>I don't feel that I get any real support from the high school. I understand where they are coming from: they see him as nothing but a difficult child and I am nothing but the ineffective parent making excuses for him. I don't excuse difficult child's behavior but if I make a suggestion on how to "de-escalate" situations their eyes roll back in their heads.</p><p></p><p>Thankfully, difficult child's behavior this year is better but I avoid sharing anything that I don't have to with them. I have already burned a few bridges.</p><p></p><p>I don't talk about my difficult child to my family or friends much either. I'm tired of being judged. I am tired of people, that have absolutely no clue, imply that they could do it so much better. I come here instead.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ROE, post: 40684, member: 2276"] I tell people on a need to know basis. In elementary school difficult child never had behavioral problems in school (at home he was a nightmare). I told the school what medications he was taking but I never told them why and nobody ever asked. His behavioral problems in school started in middle school. He was always getting into trouble. After a couple of teachers reported troubling "mood swings" I contacted all of his teachers for input thinking that a medication change might be in order. Eventually, I was called to the school for a meeting with AP, GC, and low and behold school pysch (not surprised but they could have told me that she would be included). I did come forward with the information on his diagnosis's. The reaction was mixed, but most of his teachers were a bit more understanding and willing to try to help the situation but some of them just drove me crazy. When he started high school I kept quiet at first (it was all in his file if they really wanted to know). The year started out quiet, I thought no news was good news until I got to conferences (nobody bothered to contact me before). Man did I get an earful! I met with GC shortly after to discuss difficult child's issues. I don't know what I expected to accomplish. I was just hoping to keep difficult child from getting into too much trouble. GC blew me off told me he didn't have a behavioral problem (AP had told me the same thing). It was his grades they were worried about. One month later AP calls a meeting, "difficult child has had behavioral problems from the beginning and we are not going to tolerate it." I was not happy with their sudden change of attitude. I don't feel that I get any real support from the high school. I understand where they are coming from: they see him as nothing but a difficult child and I am nothing but the ineffective parent making excuses for him. I don't excuse difficult child's behavior but if I make a suggestion on how to "de-escalate" situations their eyes roll back in their heads. Thankfully, difficult child's behavior this year is better but I avoid sharing anything that I don't have to with them. I have already burned a few bridges. I don't talk about my difficult child to my family or friends much either. I'm tired of being judged. I am tired of people, that have absolutely no clue, imply that they could do it so much better. I come here instead. [/QUOTE]
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