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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 434830" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>Well, you can't really teach remorse. Especially if he has a diagnosis of ODD. Is this the 4y/o? I do agree with Malika, but this is the age to set the foundation for always telling the truth. When this issue started to bug me big, time, I laid a new house rule. If you fess up and tell the truth, you will NOT get in trouble for the thing you did wrong. If, on the other hand, you screw up, and then lie, you get double punishment and the punishment for the lie was always more severe. Now of course, this was for the small 4-5 y/o lies, yeah I ate it, no I didn't color on the wall, etc. For my house, it set a good foundation for honesty, and as they grew older (getting older) they now come and "confess" before I discover something wrong. I generally praise them for being honest with me and try to keep the "punishment" as natural consequences, like cleaning up the mess or fixing whatever it is that went wrong. Of course, my difficult child DD1 still strugles with lies, but even she has "confessed" at times because nothing is certainly better than double.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 434830, member: 11965"] Well, you can't really teach remorse. Especially if he has a diagnosis of ODD. Is this the 4y/o? I do agree with Malika, but this is the age to set the foundation for always telling the truth. When this issue started to bug me big, time, I laid a new house rule. If you fess up and tell the truth, you will NOT get in trouble for the thing you did wrong. If, on the other hand, you screw up, and then lie, you get double punishment and the punishment for the lie was always more severe. Now of course, this was for the small 4-5 y/o lies, yeah I ate it, no I didn't color on the wall, etc. For my house, it set a good foundation for honesty, and as they grew older (getting older) they now come and "confess" before I discover something wrong. I generally praise them for being honest with me and try to keep the "punishment" as natural consequences, like cleaning up the mess or fixing whatever it is that went wrong. Of course, my difficult child DD1 still strugles with lies, but even she has "confessed" at times because nothing is certainly better than double. [/QUOTE]
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