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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 513841"><p>Daisy, I really think we are parenting twins!! LOL!!</p><p></p><p>That happens in our house, too. When difficult child and easy child play together it's ALWAYS by difficult child's rules. easy child is never allowed to make up any rules to whatever game they are playing. Sometimes, easy child doesn't want to play by difficult child's rules and he'll walk away, which almost always leaves difficult child screaming. So, in cases like that, the idea of making our house difficult child-centered backfires in all of us. easy child has to lock himself away in his room to get away from difficult child, difficult child winds up having a screaming fit because he can't get his way, and I am the lucky parent having to try to restore calm.</p><p></p><p>We're going to have to deal with this in the next fews months. easy child receives his first communion at the end of April and, like we did with difficult child, we're planning a big party for him. Now, I've already started prepping difficult child that it's easy child's big day. That he had his big day when he recieved communion and that he will have his own big day again int he fall when he receives confirmation. His answer to me was that easy child is an "idiot who doesn't deserve a big day" all to himself. Now, whether he's just saying that to push my buttons or whether that is something that he really believes, I don't know. But, it's just another level of anxiety to add on top the anxiety that I already have to deal with. Honestly, I worry that he will do something to spoil easy child's day because easy child will be the center of attention on that day.</p><p></p><p>difficult children are the center of attention more than they realize, and it's usually for all the wrong reasons. difficult child families are difficult child centered, whether it's be design or not. I just don't think that it has to be something like what was suggested to Daisy. difficult child gets the best and brightest of everything. That's only going to burn them in the end because the rest of the world is not going to do it and they won't be equipped to handle suddenly not being the center of everyon's universe.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 513841"] Daisy, I really think we are parenting twins!! LOL!! That happens in our house, too. When difficult child and easy child play together it's ALWAYS by difficult child's rules. easy child is never allowed to make up any rules to whatever game they are playing. Sometimes, easy child doesn't want to play by difficult child's rules and he'll walk away, which almost always leaves difficult child screaming. So, in cases like that, the idea of making our house difficult child-centered backfires in all of us. easy child has to lock himself away in his room to get away from difficult child, difficult child winds up having a screaming fit because he can't get his way, and I am the lucky parent having to try to restore calm. We're going to have to deal with this in the next fews months. easy child receives his first communion at the end of April and, like we did with difficult child, we're planning a big party for him. Now, I've already started prepping difficult child that it's easy child's big day. That he had his big day when he recieved communion and that he will have his own big day again int he fall when he receives confirmation. His answer to me was that easy child is an "idiot who doesn't deserve a big day" all to himself. Now, whether he's just saying that to push my buttons or whether that is something that he really believes, I don't know. But, it's just another level of anxiety to add on top the anxiety that I already have to deal with. Honestly, I worry that he will do something to spoil easy child's day because easy child will be the center of attention on that day. difficult children are the center of attention more than they realize, and it's usually for all the wrong reasons. difficult child families are difficult child centered, whether it's be design or not. I just don't think that it has to be something like what was suggested to Daisy. difficult child gets the best and brightest of everything. That's only going to burn them in the end because the rest of the world is not going to do it and they won't be equipped to handle suddenly not being the center of everyon's universe. [/QUOTE]
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