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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 645164" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>We are still going to other direction, I guess. I come from the country, that was very agrarian until rather recently. Till sixties most people got their livelihood from agriculture and especially family farms and those by nature were multi-generational systems. Some times there were separate house for older generation to live in but mostly they stayed in the same house as the younger generation. If your think for example my husband's family, his granny was the first one to move out after the farm had been handed down to father in law after father in law's dad died (though neither father in law nor his dad made their primary income from the farm, father in law's dad was a civil servant and father in law made his career in academia), till that, it was always multi generational living in this house. husband's granny moved farther away, first to near by city, later to live in other places in Europe. father in law and mother in law on the other hand decided to build a new house for themselves close to this old family home, when they decided it was time for them to move out and sell the place for husband and me. No idea how we plan to handle the next transition and if either of our sons will even be interested to live here later. And if not, what we would do then (maybe some of their cousins would then be interested to buy this, selling for an outsider really doesn't feel like an option.) And I really don't know what we will do, if for example decade from now either of our son's is starting family, they have made up their mind among themselves which one of them will buy this house and are willing to do it then. That nearby big city is really eating us alive and it is impossible to build more houses that would still have a rural feel on our lands. And I'm not sure, if I will be ready for more urban living in ten years, I enjoy rural too much. I know husband would be okay with living in the city and just keeping our summer house for rural experience, but I'm not sure, if I will be ready for that.</p><p></p><p>But anyway, in our culture those agrarian roots are still so close to everyone, that kids staying home longer doesn't feel that odd. Most move out sometime in their twenties, or keep living in two places like they were their own (rent a flat from the city and spend a lot of time with parents at countryside or in their home towns during weekends), till they start their own families (that tend to happen late around here, average first time mother is almost 30-year-old around here.) Our kids start school late and go to school for a long time, so often it is very gradual change from living with their parents, to having that flat or room in student housing, to living with their boyfriend/girlfriend in the flat and still spending lots of time in parent's house to buying or building their own house, having kids and actually starting to invite their parents over instead of visiting them. And even after that summer cottages tend to be shared and used by multiple generations (and often those summer houses either are original family farms or build to the lands of those farms.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 645164, member: 14557"] We are still going to other direction, I guess. I come from the country, that was very agrarian until rather recently. Till sixties most people got their livelihood from agriculture and especially family farms and those by nature were multi-generational systems. Some times there were separate house for older generation to live in but mostly they stayed in the same house as the younger generation. If your think for example my husband's family, his granny was the first one to move out after the farm had been handed down to father in law after father in law's dad died (though neither father in law nor his dad made their primary income from the farm, father in law's dad was a civil servant and father in law made his career in academia), till that, it was always multi generational living in this house. husband's granny moved farther away, first to near by city, later to live in other places in Europe. father in law and mother in law on the other hand decided to build a new house for themselves close to this old family home, when they decided it was time for them to move out and sell the place for husband and me. No idea how we plan to handle the next transition and if either of our sons will even be interested to live here later. And if not, what we would do then (maybe some of their cousins would then be interested to buy this, selling for an outsider really doesn't feel like an option.) And I really don't know what we will do, if for example decade from now either of our son's is starting family, they have made up their mind among themselves which one of them will buy this house and are willing to do it then. That nearby big city is really eating us alive and it is impossible to build more houses that would still have a rural feel on our lands. And I'm not sure, if I will be ready for more urban living in ten years, I enjoy rural too much. I know husband would be okay with living in the city and just keeping our summer house for rural experience, but I'm not sure, if I will be ready for that. But anyway, in our culture those agrarian roots are still so close to everyone, that kids staying home longer doesn't feel that odd. Most move out sometime in their twenties, or keep living in two places like they were their own (rent a flat from the city and spend a lot of time with parents at countryside or in their home towns during weekends), till they start their own families (that tend to happen late around here, average first time mother is almost 30-year-old around here.) Our kids start school late and go to school for a long time, so often it is very gradual change from living with their parents, to having that flat or room in student housing, to living with their boyfriend/girlfriend in the flat and still spending lots of time in parent's house to buying or building their own house, having kids and actually starting to invite their parents over instead of visiting them. And even after that summer cottages tend to be shared and used by multiple generations (and often those summer houses either are original family farms or build to the lands of those farms.) [/QUOTE]
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