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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 447850" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>MM - </p><p></p><p>The reason I suggested you calling the vet is because recently when Casper was "thought" to have a cancerous mass - and the interim vet and DF were standing in the room having this GRAND discussion (said with MUCH SARCASM) about PRICE, QUANTITY vs QUALITY of life and choices - I can only tell you that what I felt towards the VET and DF wasn't reason - it was RAGE. I LOVE my Casper as if he were my child. For me there has been SO MUCH LOSS in my life that I realize I'm not off the nutt truck - and I KNOW that he is a canine. I'm not hording cats or trying to take care of all the worlds strays (SHUT UP ABOUT OLIVIA ALREADY) but I've had a lot of personal tragedy, and I have gone through a great deal of therapy to find some level of normalcy in my life. However - even AFTER finding normalcy? There is life - and life goes on and tragedy happens - Dude still did things that hurt, there were dreams that crushed me. I buried Steven. I was let go from a job I once again poured my heart into and was 'laid off' then to find out I was replaced not for the reason I was told but because I was fat. Nearly two years of struggle later? I'm still unemployed. I watched DF's health deteriorate and go right down the tubes and I'm left standing here picking up the pieces - so yeah....when I FALL APART? I hold the dog.....he's what keeps me sane. He's who I cry to....He's who holds all my secrets. He's who looks at me without judgement and says "I love you Mom....it will be okay - and not with a SINGLE word....with just his eyes, or a tilt of his head, or a sigh." Then I know it's going to be okay. So I don't necessarily want someone that I love coming to me and saying "It's time to let his life go and put a needle in him it's the humane thing." </p><p></p><p>I can make that decision -I know it's the right thing, but I swear I'd rather (in some weird way) have to harbor feelings of dislike towards the vet - than my friend or loves. I know what they were saying needed to be done if that was it---but I did NOT "NEED" to hear it from DF ....I just needed to hear "We'll do what we can to make his last days comfortable and I'll help you with whatever you need to do that." from him. Not -"You know it's time." ----From her (the vet)? Yeah - I don't know her so if I had to deflect some anger at the situation for a moment for some THING taking the love of my life - my best friend from me - even though I KNEW in my heart it wasn't HER and it was the cancer? I really would have appreciated him just keeping more towards support and less towards the "you know it's the best thing for the dog." -he wasn't communicating anyting to me -and I don't remember what he said - but I remember how he made me feel. </p><p></p><p>Let the vet take his roll in this and just support your friend - she's going to need you <em><u><strong>more </strong></u></em>than you know. Her heart is about to be ripped out and it's going to leave a huge hole. (A hole about the size of her dog) </p><p></p><p>Hugs & Love </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 447850, member: 4964"] MM - The reason I suggested you calling the vet is because recently when Casper was "thought" to have a cancerous mass - and the interim vet and DF were standing in the room having this GRAND discussion (said with MUCH SARCASM) about PRICE, QUANTITY vs QUALITY of life and choices - I can only tell you that what I felt towards the VET and DF wasn't reason - it was RAGE. I LOVE my Casper as if he were my child. For me there has been SO MUCH LOSS in my life that I realize I'm not off the nutt truck - and I KNOW that he is a canine. I'm not hording cats or trying to take care of all the worlds strays (SHUT UP ABOUT OLIVIA ALREADY) but I've had a lot of personal tragedy, and I have gone through a great deal of therapy to find some level of normalcy in my life. However - even AFTER finding normalcy? There is life - and life goes on and tragedy happens - Dude still did things that hurt, there were dreams that crushed me. I buried Steven. I was let go from a job I once again poured my heart into and was 'laid off' then to find out I was replaced not for the reason I was told but because I was fat. Nearly two years of struggle later? I'm still unemployed. I watched DF's health deteriorate and go right down the tubes and I'm left standing here picking up the pieces - so yeah....when I FALL APART? I hold the dog.....he's what keeps me sane. He's who I cry to....He's who holds all my secrets. He's who looks at me without judgement and says "I love you Mom....it will be okay - and not with a SINGLE word....with just his eyes, or a tilt of his head, or a sigh." Then I know it's going to be okay. So I don't necessarily want someone that I love coming to me and saying "It's time to let his life go and put a needle in him it's the humane thing." I can make that decision -I know it's the right thing, but I swear I'd rather (in some weird way) have to harbor feelings of dislike towards the vet - than my friend or loves. I know what they were saying needed to be done if that was it---but I did NOT "NEED" to hear it from DF ....I just needed to hear "We'll do what we can to make his last days comfortable and I'll help you with whatever you need to do that." from him. Not -"You know it's time." ----From her (the vet)? Yeah - I don't know her so if I had to deflect some anger at the situation for a moment for some THING taking the love of my life - my best friend from me - even though I KNEW in my heart it wasn't HER and it was the cancer? I really would have appreciated him just keeping more towards support and less towards the "you know it's the best thing for the dog." -he wasn't communicating anyting to me -and I don't remember what he said - but I remember how he made me feel. Let the vet take his roll in this and just support your friend - she's going to need you [I][U][B]more [/B][/U][/I]than you know. Her heart is about to be ripped out and it's going to leave a huge hole. (A hole about the size of her dog) Hugs & Love Star [/QUOTE]
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