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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 571558" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I simply meant that when you are in the situation there your family's main language(s) is different of most dominant in your environment, or you live in very bilingual environment, not teaching/talking moren than one language to kids, even with disabilities, is simply not possible. Unfortunately in older times (and even more unfortunately in some parts of the world still) families are told not to talk their primary language to their children but use the dominant language in that environment. Or parents from two different language are told to choose only one language to speak their kids. And if parents do that, huge amount of heritage and voicing the feelings is lost. And often child only learns the language wrong on the top of that. Language is not just a way to communicate, it is an important part on how we think, how we feel, how we understand the world. Second or third language is just not the same.</p><p></p><p>My family speaks minority language in there we live. I was born bilingual, my dad speaks the dominant language in this country, my mother is minority, some of my (numerous) step fathers/my mother's SOs spoke my mother's language, some my father's, some yet another. During that time bilingualism was considered a disadvantage so half of my childhood my mother changed languages she talked to me according a current husband/boyfriend, I also changed schools often and some of them taught in one language and some in other. I didn't have learning disabilities and I can say I master both of my first languages now well and I also speak five other language well enough to be able to for example read newspapers (or write this, English is neither of my first two languages) and know some basics from few other languages. However I'm still angry to my mom for robbing me from having a strong, consistent first language. My grandparents talked their language to me consistently and my dad spoke his language to me (but I didn't meat him often or consistently) and his language being a dominant one in my environment, I learned that well. But because my mom's inconsistency I always feel a little worse to wear over my first language.</p><p></p><p>Because of my own experiences I very strongly oppose forsaking parent's own language(s) in favour of the dominant language. And if someone is in the situation like Dona here, there they are minority language speakers, the only way to 'spare a child from having to juggle wit many languages' is to forsake their own language(s). And that does so much more bad than good.</p><p></p><p>So even considering removing some languages from child's life is bad idea. If there are language related learning difficulties, they have to dealt with, but the way to do that can't be having less different languages in child's life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 571558, member: 14557"] I simply meant that when you are in the situation there your family's main language(s) is different of most dominant in your environment, or you live in very bilingual environment, not teaching/talking moren than one language to kids, even with disabilities, is simply not possible. Unfortunately in older times (and even more unfortunately in some parts of the world still) families are told not to talk their primary language to their children but use the dominant language in that environment. Or parents from two different language are told to choose only one language to speak their kids. And if parents do that, huge amount of heritage and voicing the feelings is lost. And often child only learns the language wrong on the top of that. Language is not just a way to communicate, it is an important part on how we think, how we feel, how we understand the world. Second or third language is just not the same. My family speaks minority language in there we live. I was born bilingual, my dad speaks the dominant language in this country, my mother is minority, some of my (numerous) step fathers/my mother's SOs spoke my mother's language, some my father's, some yet another. During that time bilingualism was considered a disadvantage so half of my childhood my mother changed languages she talked to me according a current husband/boyfriend, I also changed schools often and some of them taught in one language and some in other. I didn't have learning disabilities and I can say I master both of my first languages now well and I also speak five other language well enough to be able to for example read newspapers (or write this, English is neither of my first two languages) and know some basics from few other languages. However I'm still angry to my mom for robbing me from having a strong, consistent first language. My grandparents talked their language to me consistently and my dad spoke his language to me (but I didn't meat him often or consistently) and his language being a dominant one in my environment, I learned that well. But because my mom's inconsistency I always feel a little worse to wear over my first language. Because of my own experiences I very strongly oppose forsaking parent's own language(s) in favour of the dominant language. And if someone is in the situation like Dona here, there they are minority language speakers, the only way to 'spare a child from having to juggle wit many languages' is to forsake their own language(s). And that does so much more bad than good. So even considering removing some languages from child's life is bad idea. If there are language related learning difficulties, they have to dealt with, but the way to do that can't be having less different languages in child's life. [/QUOTE]
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