Thank you all very much for your information. I bought the book that everybody recommended "The Explosive Child". It really is insightful. It is making alot of things clearer for me.
I hope she has a good day at daycare today. It is really hard for me to walk in and hear all the negative and bad things she did that day. She even tells me "Mommy I had a bad day today". It really breaks my heart.
I don't know what I will do if she gets kicked out of daycare. I hope things won't get to that point. I will fight for my daughter to receive the services that she needs from the SD.
On another note I am more aware of things that are bothering her. Today for instance, she did not want to wear a new shirt I bought her because it is too itchy. The hairclips that I picked out were also not good. She preferred the softer ones.