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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 464028" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>First of all honey many big hugs to you...you've been through the wringer and need them. Second, the evaluation is just that...testing, testing, testing. </p><p></p><p>Third: call the evaluating professional and ask them to have a sit down with yourself and hopefully your husband, so that you're not walking away reeling. Ask a lot of questions...the easiest way to do that is to make a copy of the documentation and write all over it, highlight the stuff you don't understand, and question away. It would be ludacris to think that you could digest all of that!</p><p></p><p>Slow and steady, hon. Slow and steady won the race. Don't cry over it (unless that proves to make you feel better) and if you do, allow yourself to release all of it. </p><p></p><p>Signs of mental illness is a generic term...in reality, if he's depressed - he's already got mental illness! Not just signs! And as far as the $2.00 analysis provided by family that says "he's not depressed because he's acting like this" - they're wrong. Depression manifests differently in children than adults (ordinarily - there are exceptions to EVERY rule!). </p><p></p><p>Here's why you can't beat yourself up over this: you're doing everything you can to help him. Plain and simple - you've chosen not to bury your head in the sand and to be proactive. Warrior Mom!</p><p></p><p>Since your easy child is being tested for learning disabilities, you might want to have your difficult child tested as well. It's not uncommon to have more than one child with issues. Who knows? He could turn out to have NonVerbal Learning Disorder - that can be worked with via a different way of teaching and cognitive behavioral therapy.</p><p></p><p>Feel better...don't put the cart before the horse - question, question, question...and if you're not clear on the answer - ask again and again until you understand it!</p><p></p><p>We're here for you hon!</p><p></p><p>Beth<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sorrysmiley.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sorrysmiley:" title="sorrysmiley :sorrysmiley:" data-shortname=":sorrysmiley:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 464028, member: 3814"] First of all honey many big hugs to you...you've been through the wringer and need them. Second, the evaluation is just that...testing, testing, testing. Third: call the evaluating professional and ask them to have a sit down with yourself and hopefully your husband, so that you're not walking away reeling. Ask a lot of questions...the easiest way to do that is to make a copy of the documentation and write all over it, highlight the stuff you don't understand, and question away. It would be ludacris to think that you could digest all of that! Slow and steady, hon. Slow and steady won the race. Don't cry over it (unless that proves to make you feel better) and if you do, allow yourself to release all of it. Signs of mental illness is a generic term...in reality, if he's depressed - he's already got mental illness! Not just signs! And as far as the $2.00 analysis provided by family that says "he's not depressed because he's acting like this" - they're wrong. Depression manifests differently in children than adults (ordinarily - there are exceptions to EVERY rule!). Here's why you can't beat yourself up over this: you're doing everything you can to help him. Plain and simple - you've chosen not to bury your head in the sand and to be proactive. Warrior Mom! Since your easy child is being tested for learning disabilities, you might want to have your difficult child tested as well. It's not uncommon to have more than one child with issues. Who knows? He could turn out to have NonVerbal Learning Disorder - that can be worked with via a different way of teaching and cognitive behavioral therapy. Feel better...don't put the cart before the horse - question, question, question...and if you're not clear on the answer - ask again and again until you understand it! We're here for you hon! Beth:sorrysmiley: [/QUOTE]
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