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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 416724" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Not understanding the meaning of friendship is common with difficult child's but it also happens with easy child's. When I review my life there are a few things I deeply regret from my youth. Interestingly enough two "friendships" I treated badly and over fifty years later I still feel a twinge of guilt. One girl was the only kid in my neighborhood and we spent alot of time together by default so to speak. Then...I began to form a best friend relationship with a girl from school and I excluded my neighbor friend far more than I should have. I even felt guilty at the time (maybe twelve or so) but I loved spending time alone with my new best friend. I'm sure it was heartbreaking for the neighbor. Later on when I started high school (in a new neighborhood) there was a girl who really needed a friend and was eager to be at my side alot. I never said anything rude to either girl but I left them behind as my social life began to flourish. Guilt lingers. I was a easy child.</p><p> </p><p>As a parent and grandparent I totally understand your post. Obviously taking things and demeaning others is unacceptable.That age, however, is difficult for many. Learning about friendships is tricky. Everyone is trying to identify who they are and who they want to be...and who they want to hang out with during their transition. For difficult child's it can be extreme. Most of us eventually "see" who we are and try to learn from our mistakes. I guarantee you I never duplicated that behavior again. I do hope your difficult child will have an awakening too. The whole process is sad for everyone. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 416724, member: 35"] Not understanding the meaning of friendship is common with difficult child's but it also happens with easy child's. When I review my life there are a few things I deeply regret from my youth. Interestingly enough two "friendships" I treated badly and over fifty years later I still feel a twinge of guilt. One girl was the only kid in my neighborhood and we spent alot of time together by default so to speak. Then...I began to form a best friend relationship with a girl from school and I excluded my neighbor friend far more than I should have. I even felt guilty at the time (maybe twelve or so) but I loved spending time alone with my new best friend. I'm sure it was heartbreaking for the neighbor. Later on when I started high school (in a new neighborhood) there was a girl who really needed a friend and was eager to be at my side alot. I never said anything rude to either girl but I left them behind as my social life began to flourish. Guilt lingers. I was a easy child. As a parent and grandparent I totally understand your post. Obviously taking things and demeaning others is unacceptable.That age, however, is difficult for many. Learning about friendships is tricky. Everyone is trying to identify who they are and who they want to be...and who they want to hang out with during their transition. For difficult child's it can be extreme. Most of us eventually "see" who we are and try to learn from our mistakes. I guarantee you I never duplicated that behavior again. I do hope your difficult child will have an awakening too. The whole process is sad for everyone. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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