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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 427441" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>I'm struggling with this one, TM. A lot.</p><p> </p><p>Seriously's post about the boy choking another boy...granted, these boys are older, but that could be my difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>And on one hand, he has to be accountable for his actions. On the other, he doesn't learn like typical kids, and this is the ONLY YEAR in his entire school career that he's actually learned diddly squat because the kids and staff weren't provoking him. Putting my difficult child in a punishment-based juvie system right now would ruin any shot he has at making it in life. He may not, anyway, but his only shot lies in those who will teach him using the way he learns.</p><p> </p><p>So I think of the boy who did the choking, and my first response is hold him accountable, but a very close second response is what else has gone on to get to this point? </p><p> </p><p>And in the case of my difficult child? How do I hold the adults accountable for their repeated failures to him? We know what works, but yet so few will actually use it....If you can boot the learning disabled kid out of school and charge him legally for "failing" to maintain himself, why can't you boot the teacher who refuses to use the tried and true methods with him? Isn't that person at least somewhat responsible, too? I mean, they are the person that is supposed to be "teaching" this child...</p><p> </p><p>I'm torn.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 427441, member: 1848"] I'm struggling with this one, TM. A lot. Seriously's post about the boy choking another boy...granted, these boys are older, but that could be my difficult child. And on one hand, he has to be accountable for his actions. On the other, he doesn't learn like typical kids, and this is the ONLY YEAR in his entire school career that he's actually learned diddly squat because the kids and staff weren't provoking him. Putting my difficult child in a punishment-based juvie system right now would ruin any shot he has at making it in life. He may not, anyway, but his only shot lies in those who will teach him using the way he learns. So I think of the boy who did the choking, and my first response is hold him accountable, but a very close second response is what else has gone on to get to this point? And in the case of my difficult child? How do I hold the adults accountable for their repeated failures to him? We know what works, but yet so few will actually use it....If you can boot the learning disabled kid out of school and charge him legally for "failing" to maintain himself, why can't you boot the teacher who refuses to use the tried and true methods with him? Isn't that person at least somewhat responsible, too? I mean, they are the person that is supposed to be "teaching" this child... I'm torn. [/QUOTE]
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