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<blockquote data-quote="Peace Please" data-source="post: 427667" data-attributes="member: 11492"><p>I understand the allowances in school for kids who need it, but I worry about how this will help them learn to be working adults on their own. Little has an IEP which allows him timeouts from class to calm down if he loses his temper, no homework and extra time to complete work in school. What worries me about this is:</p><p>HE WANTS TO GO TO COLLEGE</p><p>- Not having homework is not preparing him for the demands of college.</p><p>- College professors will not allow extra time in class to complete a test or work.</p><p>- He can't fly off the handle at a professor or another student and expect to just walk out of class to calm down and return later like nothing happened.</p><p> </p><p>WORK</p><p>- No job is going to allow him timeouts from the workday if someone else upsets him.</p><p>- No job is going to allow him extra time to complete assignments.</p><p>- He will be fired if he flies off the handle at a co-worker or customer.</p><p> </p><p>These are just two examples of where I think giving special help to these kids is helping them now, but may be hurting them for the future. </p><p> </p><p>Another thing I worry about is whether Little uses some of these accomodations to his advantage. He knows that if he gets upset in class and has to leave, he misses whatever is going on in class. Strangely, he always needs a timeout whenever he's asked to do something he doesn't want to do or isn't ready for. But, since he can't be given homework, there's no way to make up the work except in school, which has to move on for the rest of the kids. I think he just doesn't want to work and knows that if he acts up he can get out of anything. I hope I'm wrong, but this is him m.o. at home too. If I can take a timeout at school for getting upset, I can take one at home and get out of doing the dishes.</p><p> </p><p>These things concern me for the future.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Peace Please, post: 427667, member: 11492"] I understand the allowances in school for kids who need it, but I worry about how this will help them learn to be working adults on their own. Little has an IEP which allows him timeouts from class to calm down if he loses his temper, no homework and extra time to complete work in school. What worries me about this is: HE WANTS TO GO TO COLLEGE - Not having homework is not preparing him for the demands of college. - College professors will not allow extra time in class to complete a test or work. - He can't fly off the handle at a professor or another student and expect to just walk out of class to calm down and return later like nothing happened. WORK - No job is going to allow him timeouts from the workday if someone else upsets him. - No job is going to allow him extra time to complete assignments. - He will be fired if he flies off the handle at a co-worker or customer. These are just two examples of where I think giving special help to these kids is helping them now, but may be hurting them for the future. Another thing I worry about is whether Little uses some of these accomodations to his advantage. He knows that if he gets upset in class and has to leave, he misses whatever is going on in class. Strangely, he always needs a timeout whenever he's asked to do something he doesn't want to do or isn't ready for. But, since he can't be given homework, there's no way to make up the work except in school, which has to move on for the rest of the kids. I think he just doesn't want to work and knows that if he acts up he can get out of anything. I hope I'm wrong, but this is him m.o. at home too. If I can take a timeout at school for getting upset, I can take one at home and get out of doing the dishes. These things concern me for the future. [/QUOTE]
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