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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 427757" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>I never "give him some slack" , what I do is set the bar high for HIM, each child has their own high standards that I expect them to reach within reason for them. They are so different and each one is capable of their own specific and unique milestones and talents. The goal is for all the kids to be successful, and difficult child certainly has a very different set of expectations. In comparison to the others, his bar is set lower, because he can succeed that way.</p><p> </p><p>If a child has an auditory proccesing delay and is not using a voice output system, there is a reason that child isn't, and another child is. There are other things in place for that child, we know it's not just going to be nothing, right. I'm sure there is an IEP, and whatever is in that is what WILL work for that particular child. Less supports are better if possible, and the child has to be slowly weaned of of it, so they can learn to do it themselves- or maybe that kid will have the support his whole life and use it always. It's different for everyone. The child who succeeds with breaks or time-outs absolutely should have them. Yes, you DO get breaks at work. After your break don't you always come back better able to do the job? The same with difficult child's! Slowly as they grow, the breaks throughout his school career can be shortened, etc..The child will learn the appropriate time and place for a break. But if they need it now- GOOD! They can do their work! And I don't think all our kids are going to work. If the job requires x,y and z...and he can't do it, for whatever reason, you can't work there. If the child can't do college work, then accept it and find what he can do! I'm not talking about something like having TTY for a hearing impaired, or something easily fixed, but clearly some disability that would impede them from doing the job. You have to be realistic, why should a college allow you extra time? That is not fair, if you can't do it, that's it. I understand in grade school, yes I think he should have all the extra time needed to learn the skills....in college there isn't IEP's, special-ed, etc....</p><p>I love my difficult child to death, and he does work, and lives on his own, he's still a difficult child, but things are much harder for him than they ever will be for my other 2. He wouldn't be able to go to college, even though he is so smart, he was in the GEM program all through 1st-8th grades, but we have to be realistic here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 427757, member: 2668"] I never "give him some slack" , what I do is set the bar high for HIM, each child has their own high standards that I expect them to reach within reason for them. They are so different and each one is capable of their own specific and unique milestones and talents. The goal is for all the kids to be successful, and difficult child certainly has a very different set of expectations. In comparison to the others, his bar is set lower, because he can succeed that way. If a child has an auditory proccesing delay and is not using a voice output system, there is a reason that child isn't, and another child is. There are other things in place for that child, we know it's not just going to be nothing, right. I'm sure there is an IEP, and whatever is in that is what WILL work for that particular child. Less supports are better if possible, and the child has to be slowly weaned of of it, so they can learn to do it themselves- or maybe that kid will have the support his whole life and use it always. It's different for everyone. The child who succeeds with breaks or time-outs absolutely should have them. Yes, you DO get breaks at work. After your break don't you always come back better able to do the job? The same with difficult child's! Slowly as they grow, the breaks throughout his school career can be shortened, etc..The child will learn the appropriate time and place for a break. But if they need it now- GOOD! They can do their work! And I don't think all our kids are going to work. If the job requires x,y and z...and he can't do it, for whatever reason, you can't work there. If the child can't do college work, then accept it and find what he can do! I'm not talking about something like having TTY for a hearing impaired, or something easily fixed, but clearly some disability that would impede them from doing the job. You have to be realistic, why should a college allow you extra time? That is not fair, if you can't do it, that's it. I understand in grade school, yes I think he should have all the extra time needed to learn the skills....in college there isn't IEP's, special-ed, etc.... I love my difficult child to death, and he does work, and lives on his own, he's still a difficult child, but things are much harder for him than they ever will be for my other 2. He wouldn't be able to go to college, even though he is so smart, he was in the GEM program all through 1st-8th grades, but we have to be realistic here. [/QUOTE]
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