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<blockquote data-quote="ChickPea" data-source="post: 750981" data-attributes="member: 24089"><p>We live in similar worlds.</p><p></p><p>My parents were enabling my daughter primarily through housing (paying rent) for a decade. First she lived with them. Then she wore out that welcome (in many ways it was good because they saw first-hand how terrorizing her actions can be). I think to "make it not our problem (myself and my husband)" they helped her financially. I begged and pleaded for many years for them to stop, trying to explain how it was not helping.</p><p></p><p>My parents are not green people when it comes to addictions, and they know about enabling. They just couldn't see that they were doing it. They thought they were protecting us from her and keeping her out of prostituting (they weren't - she used her apartment for it at times).</p><p></p><p>At any rate, after the baby was born they stopped helping (about 4 months later after multiple conversations and a pending eviction). It's been hard watching her struggle, but we weren't about to let her live here no matter what, so at least we had that boundary drawn. I wish they would have stopped a couple years ago, but late is better than never.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ChickPea, post: 750981, member: 24089"] We live in similar worlds. My parents were enabling my daughter primarily through housing (paying rent) for a decade. First she lived with them. Then she wore out that welcome (in many ways it was good because they saw first-hand how terrorizing her actions can be). I think to "make it not our problem (myself and my husband)" they helped her financially. I begged and pleaded for many years for them to stop, trying to explain how it was not helping. My parents are not green people when it comes to addictions, and they know about enabling. They just couldn't see that they were doing it. They thought they were protecting us from her and keeping her out of prostituting (they weren't - she used her apartment for it at times). At any rate, after the baby was born they stopped helping (about 4 months later after multiple conversations and a pending eviction). It's been hard watching her struggle, but we weren't about to let her live here no matter what, so at least we had that boundary drawn. I wish they would have stopped a couple years ago, but late is better than never. [/QUOTE]
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