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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 706715" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>It is in our loving parental hearts to want to give to our children and fix their problems. But as our difficult children (DCs) grow into adulthood, what we have always thought to be our "help" is now our "enabling", as they often continue their downward slide. (This is not how we raised them.) It seems often that the more "help" we give, the worse they are. There comes a point of realization and the need to stop the enabling, and set our boundaries. Only then can the change begin -- both change in ourselves and change in the DCs.</p><p></p><p>There is much wisdom on this site. I highly suggest you read the threads on the<u> Parents Emeritus</u> forum also. You will see the similar themes throughout. You will see stories of struggle and stories of deliverance and stories of ongoing strength and peace in the midst of all the sorrow and grief and anger and fear and guilt that we all have experienced here.</p><p></p><p>It is a relief to be able to share your situation on this forum. We understand here. You are not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 706715, member: 19617"] It is in our loving parental hearts to want to give to our children and fix their problems. But as our difficult children (DCs) grow into adulthood, what we have always thought to be our "help" is now our "enabling", as they often continue their downward slide. (This is not how we raised them.) It seems often that the more "help" we give, the worse they are. There comes a point of realization and the need to stop the enabling, and set our boundaries. Only then can the change begin -- both change in ourselves and change in the DCs. There is much wisdom on this site. I highly suggest you read the threads on the[U] Parents Emeritus[/U] forum also. You will see the similar themes throughout. You will see stories of struggle and stories of deliverance and stories of ongoing strength and peace in the midst of all the sorrow and grief and anger and fear and guilt that we all have experienced here. It is a relief to be able to share your situation on this forum. We understand here. You are not alone. [/QUOTE]
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