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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 750346" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Been there. Won't do it anymore. Don't think anyone or anything will change Kay except Kay. I finally think that caretaking a child has a finate timeline.</p><p></p><p> Kay has to do the work on her own and of her own desire in order to get better mentally and to grow up. If others try to help her, and many did, that is their decision. Has nothing to do with us. But she has burned all her bridges. She doesn't appreciate what is done for her and it is normal for people to want at the very least respect and appreciation. It is not about us. It is about our kids who treat people terribly and won't get help to change.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I are considering downscaling for retirement to a calm little town about an hour away. This is not so far that we can't see our two loving children, but Kay already lives hours away and this is one more. My other kids don't want us to give her that address, so we will see if we can go that far.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry that you have to take our walk with a child and in the end decide what to do. It took most of our retirement money, much abuse from Kay, Kay cutting us off for stopping the money, leaning on church and loved ones and Kay's absolute refusal to get constructive help for us to finally say '"She is yours" to God. And our life is finally much better.</p><p></p><p>We have no intention of even buying her even a cell phone. She can use the ones the govenment gives out. It is hard for us because we always gave Kay the best things, but she became spoiled and entitled and finally plain horrid. We are truly done. We love her too much to keep this up. And we care about ourselves now too. Acceptance.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 750346, member: 23706"] Been there. Won't do it anymore. Don't think anyone or anything will change Kay except Kay. I finally think that caretaking a child has a finate timeline. Kay has to do the work on her own and of her own desire in order to get better mentally and to grow up. If others try to help her, and many did, that is their decision. Has nothing to do with us. But she has burned all her bridges. She doesn't appreciate what is done for her and it is normal for people to want at the very least respect and appreciation. It is not about us. It is about our kids who treat people terribly and won't get help to change. My husband and I are considering downscaling for retirement to a calm little town about an hour away. This is not so far that we can't see our two loving children, but Kay already lives hours away and this is one more. My other kids don't want us to give her that address, so we will see if we can go that far. I am sorry that you have to take our walk with a child and in the end decide what to do. It took most of our retirement money, much abuse from Kay, Kay cutting us off for stopping the money, leaning on church and loved ones and Kay's absolute refusal to get constructive help for us to finally say '"She is yours" to God. And our life is finally much better. We have no intention of even buying her even a cell phone. She can use the ones the govenment gives out. It is hard for us because we always gave Kay the best things, but she became spoiled and entitled and finally plain horrid. We are truly done. We love her too much to keep this up. And we care about ourselves now too. Acceptance. [/QUOTE]
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