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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 654572" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>This was the key for me.</p><p></p><p>To stop trying to rescue him.</p><p>To stop trying to change him.</p><p>To stop trying to make him better.</p><p></p><p>To stop trying to solve his problems.</p><p>To stop giving him advice.</p><p>To stop doing stuff that I thought he needed me to do.</p><p></p><p>It's his life, not mine.</p><p>It's his choices, his consequences.</p><p></p><p>He doesn't share my priorities or my standards.</p><p>He has a mind of his own.</p><p>He's angry and cynical</p><p>and... he's right about a lot of things.</p><p></p><p>So, I accept that we're different and I'm currently trying to embrace those differences. It's an ongoing job, but it's better than the 'fixing' job I had before.</p><p></p><p>I'm not dealing with drug-addiction, so you might think "that's all very well for you", but still some of the precepts are just as valid and useful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 654572, member: 17650"] This was the key for me. To stop trying to rescue him. To stop trying to change him. To stop trying to make him better. To stop trying to solve his problems. To stop giving him advice. To stop doing stuff that I thought he needed me to do. It's his life, not mine. It's his choices, his consequences. He doesn't share my priorities or my standards. He has a mind of his own. He's angry and cynical and... he's right about a lot of things. So, I accept that we're different and I'm currently trying to embrace those differences. It's an ongoing job, but it's better than the 'fixing' job I had before. I'm not dealing with drug-addiction, so you might think "that's all very well for you", but still some of the precepts are just as valid and useful. [/QUOTE]
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