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easy child#1 will NOT stay in his bed!
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<blockquote data-quote="BestICan" data-source="post: 186216" data-attributes="member: 3413"><p>Hi, this is *exactly* what my difficult child did/does, too. Early Kindergarten was the absolute worst, worst, worst! It's mellowed out from there. My difficult child was able to articulate it - basically it was different fears every night - gorillas coming through the window, mummies coming out of the toilet, and on and on. </p><p></p><p>His therapist worked with him by validating his fears and giving him some coping mechanisms, which he tried and helped a bit. I know this sounds horrible, but we also paid him a dollar a night for sleeping in his bed - it became tied to his allowance. That only worked in the short term.</p><p></p><p>We also bought a big lego set, put it at the top of the closet, and told him he could have it after he slept in his bed for a month. This worked - until he earned the set, then back to his old ways. He said he was really miserable during that month but he wanted that set!</p><p></p><p>What ended up working in the long run was putting a mat on the floor next to our bed. He can slip onto the mat and fall asleep and we don't even notice it. He does this maybe 2x a week at this point.</p><p></p><p>I actually just asked difficult child what coping mechanism works best for him and he said, "I have two people in my head - the scared boy, and the reasonable boy. The reasonable boy says to the scared boy, 'Come on, difficult child, You're so tired you even think you're seeing something scary - obviously you need to go back to sleep!'" </p><p></p><p>Does your easy child wet the bed? Mine did until very recently, and when he stopped wetting, the night fears became better too. I am quite convinced that these issues are connected.</p><p></p><p>Just a gentle heads up: I wouldn't really expect this to get better with Kindergarten starting - that's just a lot of stress to absorb, and it's likely to come out at night.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BestICan, post: 186216, member: 3413"] Hi, this is *exactly* what my difficult child did/does, too. Early Kindergarten was the absolute worst, worst, worst! It's mellowed out from there. My difficult child was able to articulate it - basically it was different fears every night - gorillas coming through the window, mummies coming out of the toilet, and on and on. His therapist worked with him by validating his fears and giving him some coping mechanisms, which he tried and helped a bit. I know this sounds horrible, but we also paid him a dollar a night for sleeping in his bed - it became tied to his allowance. That only worked in the short term. We also bought a big lego set, put it at the top of the closet, and told him he could have it after he slept in his bed for a month. This worked - until he earned the set, then back to his old ways. He said he was really miserable during that month but he wanted that set! What ended up working in the long run was putting a mat on the floor next to our bed. He can slip onto the mat and fall asleep and we don't even notice it. He does this maybe 2x a week at this point. I actually just asked difficult child what coping mechanism works best for him and he said, "I have two people in my head - the scared boy, and the reasonable boy. The reasonable boy says to the scared boy, 'Come on, difficult child, You're so tired you even think you're seeing something scary - obviously you need to go back to sleep!'" Does your easy child wet the bed? Mine did until very recently, and when he stopped wetting, the night fears became better too. I am quite convinced that these issues are connected. Just a gentle heads up: I wouldn't really expect this to get better with Kindergarten starting - that's just a lot of stress to absorb, and it's likely to come out at night. [/QUOTE]
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