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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 148001" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know sometimes I say things are not to be done as a consequence, then extenuating circumstances intervene and I give in. What this tells the kids is that they can play me.</p><p> </p><p>What has REALLY helped is to read and follow Parenting with Love and Logic (they even have a book for parents of teens!). You can check it out on <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a> . It works really well with Jess and thank you, and even difficult child knows certain things will NOT get "exceptions" or whatever from ME. His grandparents are another story, as is his dad.</p><p> </p><p>But when difficult child lived here it was love and logic all the way. It was the ONLY parenting method that husband really could grasp and follow through.</p><p> </p><p>I also told the kids that I was making a consequence, then going back on it. So after this talk, if I said it, I HAD to do it. No more "take backs" . It cut down on the bargaining.</p><p> </p><p>I really think your easy child is pushing you. Does she know you can just stop paying for the phone? It may cost $200 or whatever, but it might keep her from going behind your back. </p><p> </p><p>I personally would search the child's room, removing whatever I felt was not supposed to be there, esp phones.</p><p> </p><p>Also, we ONLY have cordless phones, and when phone use is taken away, I lock up the phones. Or the base can be disconnected if the child has taken the phone and hidden it.</p><p> </p><p>Is easy child in counselling? Is this a big grade change? It may be something you have to seek professional help for. Sometimes parenting stinks, doesn't it?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 148001, member: 1233"] I know sometimes I say things are not to be done as a consequence, then extenuating circumstances intervene and I give in. What this tells the kids is that they can play me. What has REALLY helped is to read and follow Parenting with Love and Logic (they even have a book for parents of teens!). You can check it out on [URL="http://www.loveandlogic.com"]www.loveandlogic.com[/URL] . It works really well with Jess and thank you, and even difficult child knows certain things will NOT get "exceptions" or whatever from ME. His grandparents are another story, as is his dad. But when difficult child lived here it was love and logic all the way. It was the ONLY parenting method that husband really could grasp and follow through. I also told the kids that I was making a consequence, then going back on it. So after this talk, if I said it, I HAD to do it. No more "take backs" . It cut down on the bargaining. I really think your easy child is pushing you. Does she know you can just stop paying for the phone? It may cost $200 or whatever, but it might keep her from going behind your back. I personally would search the child's room, removing whatever I felt was not supposed to be there, esp phones. Also, we ONLY have cordless phones, and when phone use is taken away, I lock up the phones. Or the base can be disconnected if the child has taken the phone and hidden it. Is easy child in counselling? Is this a big grade change? It may be something you have to seek professional help for. Sometimes parenting stinks, doesn't it? [/QUOTE]
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