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<blockquote data-quote="Wonderful Family" data-source="post: 241358"><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">With easy child's overall attitude, husband and I understand how people want to have 5 kids; and he comes with his own sack of learning disabilities and the like to boot. It's the attitude that makes all the difference. It's scary because easy child can verbalize the difference between him and his brother at his age; and could much younger.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Talking about a small family vacation this summer; easy child is already talking about doing what difficult child is used too; it's easier he says. (e.g., no tamptrums and meltdowns) </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">We love difficult child just as much, if not more in some ways because he is special and he works so hard. Definitely a difficult child; but he's always tried to do what's right in the midst of all the trials; or at least never realized the events that would occur as a result.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Any strategies we've come-up with were based upon major crises and trying to explain that not all people handle angries like difficult child does and how he has to somehow learn to be happy; because we had no help or diagnosis for difficult child until the last couple of years beyond severe ADHD/ODD. With easy child At 3 and 4, we had special difficult child days defined that were the horrid days so that easy child would know what to do, x would mean a terrible day and so on. We tried to do it in a way to help easy child avoid engaging with difficult child when he couldn't handle it. No real clue what we were doing.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">To be honest, it's been easy child for the most part, he just gets the situation; for his age-always has. First sentence was, "Where's my brother" and he's devoted to difficult child. That's where our struggle comes in and why I worry. He's watched his brother sit catatonic and not be able to respond for weeks at time. I pray this never happens again; but after the last several days; it's driven home the message that instability can happen in the blink of an eye; and we have to help prepare easy child and ourselves as much as possible - as well as difficult child. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">difficult child is still a crank; but no where near where we were late Sunday night. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">I hope that doesn't sounds too harsh for difficult child. We control as much of his environment for him as we can to help him learn to succeed; but there are limits; especially as he gets older.</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Wonderful Family, post: 241358"] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]With easy child's overall attitude, husband and I understand how people want to have 5 kids; and he comes with his own sack of learning disabilities and the like to boot. It's the attitude that makes all the difference. It's scary because easy child can verbalize the difference between him and his brother at his age; and could much younger.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]Talking about a small family vacation this summer; easy child is already talking about doing what difficult child is used too; it's easier he says. (e.g., no tamptrums and meltdowns) [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]We love difficult child just as much, if not more in some ways because he is special and he works so hard. Definitely a difficult child; but he's always tried to do what's right in the midst of all the trials; or at least never realized the events that would occur as a result.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]Any strategies we've come-up with were based upon major crises and trying to explain that not all people handle angries like difficult child does and how he has to somehow learn to be happy; because we had no help or diagnosis for difficult child until the last couple of years beyond severe ADHD/ODD. With easy child At 3 and 4, we had special difficult child days defined that were the horrid days so that easy child would know what to do, x would mean a terrible day and so on. We tried to do it in a way to help easy child avoid engaging with difficult child when he couldn't handle it. No real clue what we were doing.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]To be honest, it's been easy child for the most part, he just gets the situation; for his age-always has. First sentence was, "Where's my brother" and he's devoted to difficult child. That's where our struggle comes in and why I worry. He's watched his brother sit catatonic and not be able to respond for weeks at time. I pray this never happens again; but after the last several days; it's driven home the message that instability can happen in the blink of an eye; and we have to help prepare easy child and ourselves as much as possible - as well as difficult child. [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]difficult child is still a crank; but no where near where we were late Sunday night. [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]I hope that doesn't sounds too harsh for difficult child. We control as much of his environment for him as we can to help him learn to succeed; but there are limits; especially as he gets older.[/FONT][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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