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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 537389" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>It would be difficult (but not impossible) for her to get back here. Her processing issues would make it difficult for her to manage the multiple transfers (buses, trains) to get from where she is to where we are. It has been over 3 years since she saw the other kids and we have refused to give her pictures of them. Unless husband or I are with them, I am hoping that she wouldn't recognize them. </p><p></p><p>I think once she is in her own apartment, she will lose interest in us completely. I think she only remains interested in us now because (1) the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) still needs my consent for some things (2) we send her birthday and Christmas gifts (3) she can play the 'poor me' card because 'my family doesn't love me'. </p><p></p><p>We had planned on moving prior to her being "free" but our other 3 love where we live, so we haven't done it since the risk is so small. And if she did show up, she would likely try to get stuff from us first...money, gifts, etc. So her first contact with us is not likely to be violent. </p><p></p><p>Long term, we plan to buy a small apartment building and convert it into a 'family estate' so that the boys can have some independence but still be close enough that we can support them. We will never tell her that plan nor where we end up living.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 537389, member: 1169"] It would be difficult (but not impossible) for her to get back here. Her processing issues would make it difficult for her to manage the multiple transfers (buses, trains) to get from where she is to where we are. It has been over 3 years since she saw the other kids and we have refused to give her pictures of them. Unless husband or I are with them, I am hoping that she wouldn't recognize them. I think once she is in her own apartment, she will lose interest in us completely. I think she only remains interested in us now because (1) the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) still needs my consent for some things (2) we send her birthday and Christmas gifts (3) she can play the 'poor me' card because 'my family doesn't love me'. We had planned on moving prior to her being "free" but our other 3 love where we live, so we haven't done it since the risk is so small. And if she did show up, she would likely try to get stuff from us first...money, gifts, etc. So her first contact with us is not likely to be violent. Long term, we plan to buy a small apartment building and convert it into a 'family estate' so that the boys can have some independence but still be close enough that we can support them. We will never tell her that plan nor where we end up living. [/QUOTE]
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