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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 645574" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I've not read the other replies.........</p><p></p><p>Grandpa needs more than you can give, more than anyone without some type of training can provide due to his current level of care. Sight loss and tactile loss is a sound reason to have him placed either in assisted living or a nursing facility. If Gramps wants to bulk, then you bring in a social worker who will evaluation his safety in the home without help.......and he will go whether he likes it or not, or else he will pay for qualified care in order to stay in his own home. </p><p></p><p>The guilt? Go stick it on a shelf somewhere. Not everyone is cut out to care for the elderly, especially once they reach a certain level. You and the rest of the family can still dote on grandpa where ever he ends up, you just don't have to carry the whole load when you've already got a full plate. </p><p></p><p>There needs to be a family meeting, one with a social worker if necessary. </p><p></p><p>I'll admit, my mother is driving me insane. Time and distance faded memories that should have never faded. I'm handling her fine, but it's one of the <strong>HARDEST</strong> things I've done. And this is not the first time I've cared for an elderly family member until they walked on to the next world. Being with an insane person 24/7 is exactly what you might imagine it to be. My girls are starting to step up the support because I have told them I'm about to blow a gasket, and I am, I'm also one who doesn't have an issue admitting it. </p><p></p><p>Mom knows the moment safety becomes an issue, she goes into some sort of assisted type care. There will be no discussion. I will use the medical POA to place her if she is uncooperative. </p><p></p><p>If it is too much for you at this point in your life, then it is what it is. You gave it your best shot. Time to figure out what the next step will be. </p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 645574, member: 84"] I've not read the other replies......... Grandpa needs more than you can give, more than anyone without some type of training can provide due to his current level of care. Sight loss and tactile loss is a sound reason to have him placed either in assisted living or a nursing facility. If Gramps wants to bulk, then you bring in a social worker who will evaluation his safety in the home without help.......and he will go whether he likes it or not, or else he will pay for qualified care in order to stay in his own home. The guilt? Go stick it on a shelf somewhere. Not everyone is cut out to care for the elderly, especially once they reach a certain level. You and the rest of the family can still dote on grandpa where ever he ends up, you just don't have to carry the whole load when you've already got a full plate. There needs to be a family meeting, one with a social worker if necessary. I'll admit, my mother is driving me insane. Time and distance faded memories that should have never faded. I'm handling her fine, but it's one of the [B]HARDEST[/B] things I've done. And this is not the first time I've cared for an elderly family member until they walked on to the next world. Being with an insane person 24/7 is exactly what you might imagine it to be. My girls are starting to step up the support because I have told them I'm about to blow a gasket, and I am, I'm also one who doesn't have an issue admitting it. Mom knows the moment safety becomes an issue, she goes into some sort of assisted type care. There will be no discussion. I will use the medical POA to place her if she is uncooperative. If it is too much for you at this point in your life, then it is what it is. You gave it your best shot. Time to figure out what the next step will be. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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