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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 647196" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I might have been competitive, but if I was, I lost the competition every time. I can not seem to get it that people...I don't get the "win" in it. It could be that I don't see myself well enough at this point to recognize my competitiveness.</p><p></p><p>But I do see that my mom would break up any perceived "faction". </p><p></p><p>Divide and conquer mentality.</p><p></p><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p>That is a true thing.</p><p></p><p>It explains why things would happen the way they happen, in my family of origin. </p><p></p><p>This is a very good piece of the puzzle for me to have, MWM. Thank you. When I find a piece of the puzzle of "why", I always find too that it goes back again to "abuse is nothing personal." </p><p></p><p>Abusers abuse because they abuse.</p><p></p><p>Still, it helps me see why someone with that mindset would do what they do.</p><p></p><p>And when that happens, I get to be a little more free.</p><p></p><p>I always thought I needed to be kinder, or that I had set something in motion that I hadn't known I was beginning.</p><p></p><p>I really like your comment on love versus control.</p><p></p><p>That rings very true.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 647196, member: 17461"] I might have been competitive, but if I was, I lost the competition every time. I can not seem to get it that people...I don't get the "win" in it. It could be that I don't see myself well enough at this point to recognize my competitiveness. But I do see that my mom would break up any perceived "faction". Divide and conquer mentality. Yes. That is a true thing. It explains why things would happen the way they happen, in my family of origin. This is a very good piece of the puzzle for me to have, MWM. Thank you. When I find a piece of the puzzle of "why", I always find too that it goes back again to "abuse is nothing personal." Abusers abuse because they abuse. Still, it helps me see why someone with that mindset would do what they do. And when that happens, I get to be a little more free. I always thought I needed to be kinder, or that I had set something in motion that I hadn't known I was beginning. I really like your comment on love versus control. That rings very true. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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