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Emotional manipulation or something more serious from 4 yr old grandson...
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 503412" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am wondering why it bothers you if your grandson feels sorry for himself and expresses it? Why is it inappropriate for him to say that he wants to kill himself? It's alarming, sure, but if that is how he feels...that badly...don't you want to know? If you don't let him express it, it won't make him feel any better. He just won't tell you and your communication will shut down. Clearly this child feels like he is not wanted, even though it isn't true. Perhaps he is depressed, Yes, four year olds can suffer real depression...I did so I know they can. If he starts talking negatively about himself, if I were in your shoes I would just listen, hug and rock him...then call a professional the next day to schedule help for him. There are good therapists who see every young children and do work well with them, as in play therapy, to find out what is bothering them and how much it is. You really can't do this yourself and in my opinion it isn't good to try to limit what he tells you.</p><p></p><p>Your grandson has seen a lot of chaos in his young life and it makes sense that he feels insecure. He may also have inherited your son's sensitivity and propensity to feeling sad. I would take him for a neuropsychologist evaluation to see what he thinks may be going on. This little guy, like so many of our kids, has seen too much and felt too much for a little one and any sort of vulnerability is kicked up a notch when a child's lifestyle is less than secure. </p><p></p><p>I am wondering if he told any of his peers that his father is going to jail and if they are teasing him for that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 503412, member: 1550"] I am wondering why it bothers you if your grandson feels sorry for himself and expresses it? Why is it inappropriate for him to say that he wants to kill himself? It's alarming, sure, but if that is how he feels...that badly...don't you want to know? If you don't let him express it, it won't make him feel any better. He just won't tell you and your communication will shut down. Clearly this child feels like he is not wanted, even though it isn't true. Perhaps he is depressed, Yes, four year olds can suffer real depression...I did so I know they can. If he starts talking negatively about himself, if I were in your shoes I would just listen, hug and rock him...then call a professional the next day to schedule help for him. There are good therapists who see every young children and do work well with them, as in play therapy, to find out what is bothering them and how much it is. You really can't do this yourself and in my opinion it isn't good to try to limit what he tells you. Your grandson has seen a lot of chaos in his young life and it makes sense that he feels insecure. He may also have inherited your son's sensitivity and propensity to feeling sad. I would take him for a neuropsychologist evaluation to see what he thinks may be going on. This little guy, like so many of our kids, has seen too much and felt too much for a little one and any sort of vulnerability is kicked up a notch when a child's lifestyle is less than secure. I am wondering if he told any of his peers that his father is going to jail and if they are teasing him for that. [/QUOTE]
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