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Emotional manipulation or something more serious from 4 yr old grandson...
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 503415"><p>Not at all, that is "poo pooing" his feelings. Telling him it's inappropriate sends the message that his thoughts and feelings are WRONG. They aren't wrong, they are his thoughts and feelings and they are REAL. Ask questions like "Why do you feel like hurting yourself?" Help him try to put his feelings into words. You can follow it up with things like "If you weren't here anymore, I would be really sad and miss you so much. I would NEVER get to hug you or play with you or watch you..... If I felt as sad as you are feeling, I would........" These types of things are validating his feelings and at the same time teaching him how to verbalize it. You can even explain that killing himself means that he would NEVER be able to see any of you again and NEVER play with his toys and NEVER (insert anything/everything else he likes/loves). Let him know that it is PERMANENT. You need to help him understand his feelings, express them so others can understand and help him, deal with them appropriately. He's at a young enough age that teaching will go a long way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 503415"] Not at all, that is "poo pooing" his feelings. Telling him it's inappropriate sends the message that his thoughts and feelings are WRONG. They aren't wrong, they are his thoughts and feelings and they are REAL. Ask questions like "Why do you feel like hurting yourself?" Help him try to put his feelings into words. You can follow it up with things like "If you weren't here anymore, I would be really sad and miss you so much. I would NEVER get to hug you or play with you or watch you..... If I felt as sad as you are feeling, I would........" These types of things are validating his feelings and at the same time teaching him how to verbalize it. You can even explain that killing himself means that he would NEVER be able to see any of you again and NEVER play with his toys and NEVER (insert anything/everything else he likes/loves). Let him know that it is PERMANENT. You need to help him understand his feelings, express them so others can understand and help him, deal with them appropriately. He's at a young enough age that teaching will go a long way. [/QUOTE]
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