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<blockquote data-quote="lakewriter51340" data-source="post: 194563" data-attributes="member: 5911"><p>We are having continual issues dealing with the school. DS is 15, grade 10, Aspie, takes regular classes each a.m. for English, Biology and Algebra and according to the regular teachers is doing well. In the p.m. he goes to Special Education for study skills, social skills, job skills, etc.</p><p></p><p>He says he doesn't have much in common with "those kids" in the Special Education room -- and he is a pretty smart kid. But I've told him until his focus and behavior are as good as a typical student in his grade, he needs the support of the "other room."</p><p></p><p>I'm not that thrilled all the time with the Special Education teacher. She periodically sends me emails that things are not going well, and she's particularly freaked out about the encopresis.</p><p></p><p>DS sometimes has gone long periods -- maybe down to once in a semester that he has to clean up and change at school -- but now he's allegedly up to four accidents in the last eight school days. She asked what was causing this and I gave her the primer on enco (my own succinct explanation) that I've given her several times already. If she means what's causing this right now? I don't know. I'm not in his colon.</p><p></p><p>We send clothes for changing, I've told her he can throw away the underwear, and he has been cleaning himself up just fine for years. Now they're saying they're "very uncomfortable" about the amount of time he spends in the shower. I've given them hints to set a kitchen timer or something so he doesn't get lost in thought -- or whatever -- while he's in there. They don't do it then the ***** at me for the time my son takes cleaning himself up.</p><p></p><p>What concerns me now is that the Special Education teacher seems to be trying to gather a consensus of the Special Education team, the counselor, etc. to confront us at a "meeting" she wants to set up with us. She's mentioned Dylon switching from underwear to Depends "to avoid embarrassment for him." I don't understand the need for this since I've said they can throw away the underwear for any soiling that happens at school.</p><p></p><p>Obviously I have many issues right now with the high school and they seem to want me to solve DS's problems -- something I'd be thrilled to do if I could cure autism or encopresis -- and if I had that ability I'd do it for all of your kids too.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, is it a reasonable request for them to press us to use diapers on DS at school? I feel it would be a step backward as far as dealing with the encopresis.</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, I am getting very concerned about the effects of it (always have been.) There's a program at University of Iowa called REACH which sounds like it would be perfect for DS after high school -- students with disabilities live on campus in the residence halls and experience university life to the extent they are able -- mostly taking vocational skills classes in the program but they may take any university course available which they have the ability to do. DS is actually a very talented digital artist and would be great for the program except...the students in the program have roommates and I don't know if that would work out at all.</p><p></p><p>I realize he won't be in a college situation until almost 3 years from now and anything (please Lord!) could happen, but it's definitely to the point where his enco is limiting him and it will get worse as he becomes a young adult. </p><p></p><p>Anyway...what do you think? Do we "give up" and go with the diapers if it makes it easier? I don't get how they'd be easier since as I said he cleans himself and they may throw out underwear at school if they want to.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for any advice. I hope I can provide encouragement to you all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lakewriter51340, post: 194563, member: 5911"] We are having continual issues dealing with the school. DS is 15, grade 10, Aspie, takes regular classes each a.m. for English, Biology and Algebra and according to the regular teachers is doing well. In the p.m. he goes to Special Education for study skills, social skills, job skills, etc. He says he doesn't have much in common with "those kids" in the Special Education room -- and he is a pretty smart kid. But I've told him until his focus and behavior are as good as a typical student in his grade, he needs the support of the "other room." I'm not that thrilled all the time with the Special Education teacher. She periodically sends me emails that things are not going well, and she's particularly freaked out about the encopresis. DS sometimes has gone long periods -- maybe down to once in a semester that he has to clean up and change at school -- but now he's allegedly up to four accidents in the last eight school days. She asked what was causing this and I gave her the primer on enco (my own succinct explanation) that I've given her several times already. If she means what's causing this right now? I don't know. I'm not in his colon. We send clothes for changing, I've told her he can throw away the underwear, and he has been cleaning himself up just fine for years. Now they're saying they're "very uncomfortable" about the amount of time he spends in the shower. I've given them hints to set a kitchen timer or something so he doesn't get lost in thought -- or whatever -- while he's in there. They don't do it then the ***** at me for the time my son takes cleaning himself up. What concerns me now is that the Special Education teacher seems to be trying to gather a consensus of the Special Education team, the counselor, etc. to confront us at a "meeting" she wants to set up with us. She's mentioned Dylon switching from underwear to Depends "to avoid embarrassment for him." I don't understand the need for this since I've said they can throw away the underwear for any soiling that happens at school. Obviously I have many issues right now with the high school and they seem to want me to solve DS's problems -- something I'd be thrilled to do if I could cure autism or encopresis -- and if I had that ability I'd do it for all of your kids too. Anyway, is it a reasonable request for them to press us to use diapers on DS at school? I feel it would be a step backward as far as dealing with the encopresis. On the other hand, I am getting very concerned about the effects of it (always have been.) There's a program at University of Iowa called REACH which sounds like it would be perfect for DS after high school -- students with disabilities live on campus in the residence halls and experience university life to the extent they are able -- mostly taking vocational skills classes in the program but they may take any university course available which they have the ability to do. DS is actually a very talented digital artist and would be great for the program except...the students in the program have roommates and I don't know if that would work out at all. I realize he won't be in a college situation until almost 3 years from now and anything (please Lord!) could happen, but it's definitely to the point where his enco is limiting him and it will get worse as he becomes a young adult. Anyway...what do you think? Do we "give up" and go with the diapers if it makes it easier? I don't get how they'd be easier since as I said he cleans himself and they may throw out underwear at school if they want to. Thanks for any advice. I hope I can provide encouragement to you all. [/QUOTE]
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