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<blockquote data-quote="LynnG61" data-source="post: 99054" data-attributes="member: 3558"><p>Good luck, I am dealing with this in my son, and it recently started this last May at the age of 14. (i am with The Lone Ranger on this one)This has never been an issue for him in the past, and naturally my mind flew in several directions at once. The "white elephant" you speak of has reared it's head here in my home with a vengence. We went from never having this to it being an ongoing, daily incident. Rarely at school (twice now) twice at a 28 day DOS program (incidentally, each time it was after a huge "blow up" with staff) and at home, and again each time he was displeased with me usually when asking him to do something ie: clean up bedroom, chores, etc. He would place his stool on the shelf in his closet, or in a drawer, hide his underwear under his bed, etc.</p><p></p><p>Professionals have ruled out sexual abuse, medical testing has ruled out him not having encopresis, and that left us with "control issues" to deal with. </p><p></p><p>The only thing left we can think of is that my difficult child does this when he feels he has no control over situations that affect him. (case in point, when I had to call police over his assaulting me, he said to the PO "she was telling me what to do like she was the big man in charge and all that!'</p><p></p><p>Like many parents here, I face the challenge of hygiene with him as well, and showers, brushing his teeth, keeping himself clean to include clean clothing is an ongoing battle. </p><p></p><p>Due to phsyical aggression against me, son was recently placed in an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). To my knowledge, based on the Therapist and the staff, this has yet to surface there (honeymoon period). </p><p></p><p>To combat hygiene though (it encompassed more than just hygiene but that was listed in the chart as well), I kept a chart on the refrigerator of chores and items he was responsible for on a daily basis. Things that he truly enjoyed doing (internet, playstation, etc) I limited his favorites to earned evening activities. After the daily list of was completed, checked off, discussed with me, then he earned the time to participate in his favorite activites. Granted a few nights he only had 15 minutes to do them due to his procrastination, some nights he earned no time at all, but for the most part, he realized that in order to do the "fun things" he truly enjoyed, he had to get things completed no later than one hour before bed time. </p><p></p><p>Not saying this would/could work for others who face this as "control issues" but the chart showed him his daily progress and he realized he controlled whether or not he was able to have the time to do things. It minimized the need for me to remind him daily, and minimized many outbursts. Now to work on the rest of his anger control issues with mom.</p><p></p><p>I use benefiber in his morning juice or whatever else he may be drinking (loves his hot chocolate) it dissolves and has no taste.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LynnG61, post: 99054, member: 3558"] Good luck, I am dealing with this in my son, and it recently started this last May at the age of 14. (i am with The Lone Ranger on this one)This has never been an issue for him in the past, and naturally my mind flew in several directions at once. The "white elephant" you speak of has reared it's head here in my home with a vengence. We went from never having this to it being an ongoing, daily incident. Rarely at school (twice now) twice at a 28 day DOS program (incidentally, each time it was after a huge "blow up" with staff) and at home, and again each time he was displeased with me usually when asking him to do something ie: clean up bedroom, chores, etc. He would place his stool on the shelf in his closet, or in a drawer, hide his underwear under his bed, etc. Professionals have ruled out sexual abuse, medical testing has ruled out him not having encopresis, and that left us with "control issues" to deal with. The only thing left we can think of is that my difficult child does this when he feels he has no control over situations that affect him. (case in point, when I had to call police over his assaulting me, he said to the PO "she was telling me what to do like she was the big man in charge and all that!' Like many parents here, I face the challenge of hygiene with him as well, and showers, brushing his teeth, keeping himself clean to include clean clothing is an ongoing battle. Due to phsyical aggression against me, son was recently placed in an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). To my knowledge, based on the Therapist and the staff, this has yet to surface there (honeymoon period). To combat hygiene though (it encompassed more than just hygiene but that was listed in the chart as well), I kept a chart on the refrigerator of chores and items he was responsible for on a daily basis. Things that he truly enjoyed doing (internet, playstation, etc) I limited his favorites to earned evening activities. After the daily list of was completed, checked off, discussed with me, then he earned the time to participate in his favorite activites. Granted a few nights he only had 15 minutes to do them due to his procrastination, some nights he earned no time at all, but for the most part, he realized that in order to do the "fun things" he truly enjoyed, he had to get things completed no later than one hour before bed time. Not saying this would/could work for others who face this as "control issues" but the chart showed him his daily progress and he realized he controlled whether or not he was able to have the time to do things. It minimized the need for me to remind him daily, and minimized many outbursts. Now to work on the rest of his anger control issues with mom. I use benefiber in his morning juice or whatever else he may be drinking (loves his hot chocolate) it dissolves and has no taste. [/QUOTE]
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