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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 640494" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Morning, Earlybird <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Maybe they will, maybe not. Honestly, to this day, my family of origin is a collective mess and nobody thinks he/she did anything wrong. I feel like I live in some sort of fantasy world when it comes to them. I was always the only one who saw everyone's dysfunction, including my own. To this day, my father, my brother and my sister think the family wasn't all "that bad." Um, really???? And my mother never changed her mind about me and when she withdrew herself from me because of what she felt I did wrong (long story there), it gave me room and space to see that I did not need her abuse in my life. On the other hand, sometimes, especially when a parent has actually been nice, it CAN turn things around. It is very hard to predict human nature. I give up trying. I can only predict myself (sigh). </p><p></p><p>My hope is that all of our kids learn how much we loved them in spite of our mistakes. Or their fantasies about us, which we can not control. But, in the end, I hope all of us, earlybirds included <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />, learn to love ourselves and enjoy our lives in spite of what other people may think of us, even our beloved grown children. </p><p></p><p>Ok, now I need that first cuppa <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 640494, member: 1550"] Morning, Earlybird :) Maybe they will, maybe not. Honestly, to this day, my family of origin is a collective mess and nobody thinks he/she did anything wrong. I feel like I live in some sort of fantasy world when it comes to them. I was always the only one who saw everyone's dysfunction, including my own. To this day, my father, my brother and my sister think the family wasn't all "that bad." Um, really???? And my mother never changed her mind about me and when she withdrew herself from me because of what she felt I did wrong (long story there), it gave me room and space to see that I did not need her abuse in my life. On the other hand, sometimes, especially when a parent has actually been nice, it CAN turn things around. It is very hard to predict human nature. I give up trying. I can only predict myself (sigh). My hope is that all of our kids learn how much we loved them in spite of our mistakes. Or their fantasies about us, which we can not control. But, in the end, I hope all of us, earlybirds included :), learn to love ourselves and enjoy our lives in spite of what other people may think of us, even our beloved grown children. Ok, now I need that first cuppa ;) [/QUOTE]
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