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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 638267" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>JMO... incentive systems don't work for most difficult children. They need <em>instant</em> feedback, not delayed gratification. If they were good at delayed gratification, they probably wouldn't be difficult children, if you know what I mean.</p><p></p><p>Who did he have the appointment with? and how long? Has he ever had a really <em>comprehensive</em> evaluation? (the kind that takes all day, or parts of several days). It's really easy to slap the ODD label on, the behavior patterns are obvious. But there is usually something ELSE going on, maybe parts of several things. These kids are complex. Don't settle for "a" label... you need to know <em>everything</em> that applies, or even partly applies. </p><p></p><p>I've been off the board for a while, so don't know what else has been tried or suggested... But it's a really huge thing for the "baby" in a family to lose that place... which is what has happened to this kid. He's now just a middle kid, and the only boy. Add in some family history of whatever dxes (known or not), and... hugs, it's a tough road.</p><p></p><p>For the record, school is no where near able to diagnosis <em>anything</em>. So for them to suggest ADHD and ODD is a cop out. They don't know any more than you do. Hopefully the appointment wasn't a school-based evaluation... if so, it's biased to begin with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 638267, member: 11791"] JMO... incentive systems don't work for most difficult children. They need [I]instant[/I] feedback, not delayed gratification. If they were good at delayed gratification, they probably wouldn't be difficult children, if you know what I mean. Who did he have the appointment with? and how long? Has he ever had a really [I]comprehensive[/I] evaluation? (the kind that takes all day, or parts of several days). It's really easy to slap the ODD label on, the behavior patterns are obvious. But there is usually something ELSE going on, maybe parts of several things. These kids are complex. Don't settle for "a" label... you need to know [I]everything[/I] that applies, or even partly applies. I've been off the board for a while, so don't know what else has been tried or suggested... But it's a really huge thing for the "baby" in a family to lose that place... which is what has happened to this kid. He's now just a middle kid, and the only boy. Add in some family history of whatever dxes (known or not), and... hugs, it's a tough road. For the record, school is no where near able to diagnosis [I]anything[/I]. So for them to suggest ADHD and ODD is a cop out. They don't know any more than you do. Hopefully the appointment wasn't a school-based evaluation... if so, it's biased to begin with. [/QUOTE]
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