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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 323968" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Can you please explain further as to what it is that your wife and you disagree about?</p><p></p><p>Also, is your brother a ward of your parents or is an adult free and clear?</p><p></p><p>I would beware of allowing this to become an issue ahead of it's time between yourself and your wife. What you foresee may come to pass. Then again, it may not. Please don't allow yourselves to fight this battle before you know all of the facts. It is not good for your marriage, and has triangulation written all over it as far as who will think that they are in the right and who has the right to make these decisions.</p><p></p><p>How good is your relationship with your parents? Would you be able to approach them calmly and address your concerns with them? It might be more palatable if you approach it from the standpoint of "We're concerned that this may happen with us" rather than "we don't like what you have planned." You don't want to put them on the defensive regarding something that may not come to pass, and they may be more likely to take your advice if they feel that you will support them while at the same time you have your own definite boundaries.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 323968, member: 99"] Can you please explain further as to what it is that your wife and you disagree about? Also, is your brother a ward of your parents or is an adult free and clear? I would beware of allowing this to become an issue ahead of it's time between yourself and your wife. What you foresee may come to pass. Then again, it may not. Please don't allow yourselves to fight this battle before you know all of the facts. It is not good for your marriage, and has triangulation written all over it as far as who will think that they are in the right and who has the right to make these decisions. How good is your relationship with your parents? Would you be able to approach them calmly and address your concerns with them? It might be more palatable if you approach it from the standpoint of "We're concerned that this may happen with us" rather than "we don't like what you have planned." You don't want to put them on the defensive regarding something that may not come to pass, and they may be more likely to take your advice if they feel that you will support them while at the same time you have your own definite boundaries. [/QUOTE]
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