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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 331135" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I believe that if you are named executor in a will there is a way to refuse it. There probably is a way to do it with conservatorship or guardianship also. I KNOW a guardian can refuse the responsibility. It is why planning is so hard for us. NO ONE will agree to take my children. My parents would step in, but will not agree to unless no one else will. I have a bro that might try but my children would not stay with him. husband has a sister with a grown son who openly refused to consider it saying she only ever wanted one child and would have no part of raising our kids if the unthinkable happened. My inlaws do not feel "interested". Sadly, none of the other relatives would do this even though until recently I was guardian for several of THEIR kids (I only learned this after the kids were 18 and let it "slip").</p><p></p><p>Planning is TOUGH. I am SURE it weighs on your parents minds. Just be open with them. Be honest and don't make judgements. Stress your lack of ability to handle things rather than their shortfalls or bro's difficult nature.</p><p></p><p>Also check with your attorney about whether it would be best to refuse the executor task or other surprises. You need to know if you have legal options should they go ahead and name you as whatever.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 331135, member: 1233"] I believe that if you are named executor in a will there is a way to refuse it. There probably is a way to do it with conservatorship or guardianship also. I KNOW a guardian can refuse the responsibility. It is why planning is so hard for us. NO ONE will agree to take my children. My parents would step in, but will not agree to unless no one else will. I have a bro that might try but my children would not stay with him. husband has a sister with a grown son who openly refused to consider it saying she only ever wanted one child and would have no part of raising our kids if the unthinkable happened. My inlaws do not feel "interested". Sadly, none of the other relatives would do this even though until recently I was guardian for several of THEIR kids (I only learned this after the kids were 18 and let it "slip"). Planning is TOUGH. I am SURE it weighs on your parents minds. Just be open with them. Be honest and don't make judgements. Stress your lack of ability to handle things rather than their shortfalls or bro's difficult nature. Also check with your attorney about whether it would be best to refuse the executor task or other surprises. You need to know if you have legal options should they go ahead and name you as whatever. [/QUOTE]
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