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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 332837" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm glad you have the discussion scheduled. Perhaps you should take a notebook with you and ask specific questions about what has been tried and, very importantly, when it was tried. Services vary so much from one community to the next and from one time period to another. It's possible that they have approached agencies in the past that you are not privy to.</p><p> </p><p>In our family (slightly strange, I know, lol) we refer to possible future deaths/circumstances by saying "if I get run over by a turnip truck" then xyz. It's a long standing reference that my Dad used and it has passed on to the current generation. Although I'm not suggesting that you use that phrase <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> I think that you might preplan how you reference their future deaths in a way that won't make them feel overwhelmed. In actuality it is possible "the turnip truck" might get you before it gets them. Accidents happen and it is easier to preplan the "what if's" using an unlikely <strong>but </strong>possible scenario.</p><p> </p><p>Planning is difficult under the best of circumstances. If you show caring and concern in the meeting, chances are they will be less defensive and more willing to share. Good luck. I'll be interested to hear the update. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 332837, member: 35"] I'm glad you have the discussion scheduled. Perhaps you should take a notebook with you and ask specific questions about what has been tried and, very importantly, when it was tried. Services vary so much from one community to the next and from one time period to another. It's possible that they have approached agencies in the past that you are not privy to. In our family (slightly strange, I know, lol) we refer to possible future deaths/circumstances by saying "if I get run over by a turnip truck" then xyz. It's a long standing reference that my Dad used and it has passed on to the current generation. Although I'm not suggesting that you use that phrase :winking: I think that you might preplan how you reference their future deaths in a way that won't make them feel overwhelmed. In actuality it is possible "the turnip truck" might get you before it gets them. Accidents happen and it is easier to preplan the "what if's" using an unlikely [B]but [/B]possible scenario. Planning is difficult under the best of circumstances. If you show caring and concern in the meeting, chances are they will be less defensive and more willing to share. Good luck. I'll be interested to hear the update. DDD [/QUOTE]
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