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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 143460" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>OMG! you just reminded me-OMG! </p><p>My son went in for new glasses, not ones to improve his vision, but a pair becuz he is supposed to wear them to protect his "good eye" which already has perfect vision. So, as part of the protocol, an eye exam was included, so we sat and did the history etc.....includeing discussing his surgeries at length....and WHY he was getting glasses even tho his good eye is perfect and his bad eye is completely 100% no use AT ALL (except for a base for future prosthesis) </p><p>So wwe finish all that, order glasses, come to pick them up- the lady looks at his chart, looks at son, puts glasses on him, says "there now do you see LOTS better now?" so my son - you can see him stifling a grin, says well, no, not really (which is of course totally true) so the lady gets all concerned and is starting to freak out. and my goofy son, loses his patience with her, and jumps up and says OH IT IS A MIRACLE, a miracle, I tell you! OMG! My son is NOT normally difficult child ish. well, the lady was taken aback, and she is like ACK what is going on? and I am sorry, I know it was not nice of my son, but....I had to struggle to not LOL. I was like DUDE knock it off, youre freaking her out. Well, nevermind just 3 days prior we had gone over the WHOLE "tragedy" of his eye with her.....my son was like "sorry, I wanted to make you feel better, lady" well, this lady did NOT find it humourous AT ALL. </p><p>A week later we were at eye surgeons for more of the never ending "follow up" and there was a new tech (or whatever the people are who check you before the doctor himself comes in) and well..um, they are accustomed to geriatrics, and not peds.....and I suppose maybe they do not have all too many failures? So this lady comes in and is doing her thing, and says to son, OK vision test time. He says OK (This is routine to him, old hat, old news etc, I mean we went every week for months) Now she had just sat there and scanned his chart....and his eye is scarred REALLY badly....and she says ok cover this eye.....and he says "why? I cannot even percieve light in THAT eye" She says oh really? well lets see. well, now he gets mad cuz well, he already resents giving up his free time to go so far and he is angry she is not LISTENING to him......she looks at ME as if to confirm whether or not he can see or not. By then I am already getting giggles, which I get when nervous. I look at her and point to my son, becuz I am TRYING to teach my kids to take some ownership for their health care and I want the providers to ask my KIDS their questions, becuz hey, why do they need to ask me and then have me ask my kids and my kid answer me and then me answer the provider? Ask my kid directly. BUT my son has now decided heck with this lady. SO the lady repeats for son to cover his bad eye.......so------he complied and then she asked him to read the chart------well, um, my son has the dumb chart MEMORIZED so------</p><p>ACK! He promptly and correctly told her the letters on the chart! with a straight face! I KNEW he was gonna do that- I saw it coming. I did not stop him, I am so naughty. I sat there. She looked at me all accuseing and said "Well! I thought you said he cannot see from that eye" </p><p>UG! OK lady, you refused to give my son or me the listening you should have, you PRETNEDED to read his chart, but obviously you didn't, YOU deserve this (thats what I was thinking) </p><p>Instead of saying what I was thinking, I burst out in massive laughter. I said to her make him read the next line. she started to get all huffy at us. well, hey come on. I said to her do it. she was too angry and weird. I said look lady, he cannot see, we told you he cannot see. why couldn't you acept that, or confirm it in his chart. He is bored. he would much rather spend his free time playing, do you blame him? we tried to tell you. you did not want to listen. so he decided to play with you. where is your sense of humor. YEESH. Thank goodness his eye surgeon has a sense of humor. My son got a tshirt that said "it was all fun and games till the flying monekys take your eye" with stick people and stick monkeys, and yes, my son wore THAT to eye docs office-----eye doctor walked in room and immediately burst out LOL. </p><p>ANYONE who works with kids, they NEED to um...know something about kids.....they need to have a sense of humor but they also need to be aware that not everyone does have a sense of humor and some kids do take things quite literally, very seriously, and other kids will be playful, mischievous etc. BUT at the same time, they also do need to give the kids respect. If you do not give my kid respect? I am not gonna demand my kid give you respect. My kid does not have to EARN your respect from the start-----we command your respect becuz we HIRED you - now yes, if my kid causes you to no longer respect him, thats different BUT.....I do not care WHAT my kids diagnosis is- you start off giving him respect. </p><p>But before you start makeing puns or being sarcastic etc, you need to know how the client/patient is going to perceive it. and unless you have that kind of rapport, then if you are in a professional relationship- you need to behave accordingly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 143460, member: 1697"] OMG! you just reminded me-OMG! My son went in for new glasses, not ones to improve his vision, but a pair becuz he is supposed to wear them to protect his "good eye" which already has perfect vision. So, as part of the protocol, an eye exam was included, so we sat and did the history etc.....includeing discussing his surgeries at length....and WHY he was getting glasses even tho his good eye is perfect and his bad eye is completely 100% no use AT ALL (except for a base for future prosthesis) So wwe finish all that, order glasses, come to pick them up- the lady looks at his chart, looks at son, puts glasses on him, says "there now do you see LOTS better now?" so my son - you can see him stifling a grin, says well, no, not really (which is of course totally true) so the lady gets all concerned and is starting to freak out. and my goofy son, loses his patience with her, and jumps up and says OH IT IS A MIRACLE, a miracle, I tell you! OMG! My son is NOT normally difficult child ish. well, the lady was taken aback, and she is like ACK what is going on? and I am sorry, I know it was not nice of my son, but....I had to struggle to not LOL. I was like DUDE knock it off, youre freaking her out. Well, nevermind just 3 days prior we had gone over the WHOLE "tragedy" of his eye with her.....my son was like "sorry, I wanted to make you feel better, lady" well, this lady did NOT find it humourous AT ALL. A week later we were at eye surgeons for more of the never ending "follow up" and there was a new tech (or whatever the people are who check you before the doctor himself comes in) and well..um, they are accustomed to geriatrics, and not peds.....and I suppose maybe they do not have all too many failures? So this lady comes in and is doing her thing, and says to son, OK vision test time. He says OK (This is routine to him, old hat, old news etc, I mean we went every week for months) Now she had just sat there and scanned his chart....and his eye is scarred REALLY badly....and she says ok cover this eye.....and he says "why? I cannot even percieve light in THAT eye" She says oh really? well lets see. well, now he gets mad cuz well, he already resents giving up his free time to go so far and he is angry she is not LISTENING to him......she looks at ME as if to confirm whether or not he can see or not. By then I am already getting giggles, which I get when nervous. I look at her and point to my son, becuz I am TRYING to teach my kids to take some ownership for their health care and I want the providers to ask my KIDS their questions, becuz hey, why do they need to ask me and then have me ask my kids and my kid answer me and then me answer the provider? Ask my kid directly. BUT my son has now decided heck with this lady. SO the lady repeats for son to cover his bad eye.......so------he complied and then she asked him to read the chart------well, um, my son has the dumb chart MEMORIZED so------ ACK! He promptly and correctly told her the letters on the chart! with a straight face! I KNEW he was gonna do that- I saw it coming. I did not stop him, I am so naughty. I sat there. She looked at me all accuseing and said "Well! I thought you said he cannot see from that eye" UG! OK lady, you refused to give my son or me the listening you should have, you PRETNEDED to read his chart, but obviously you didn't, YOU deserve this (thats what I was thinking) Instead of saying what I was thinking, I burst out in massive laughter. I said to her make him read the next line. she started to get all huffy at us. well, hey come on. I said to her do it. she was too angry and weird. I said look lady, he cannot see, we told you he cannot see. why couldn't you acept that, or confirm it in his chart. He is bored. he would much rather spend his free time playing, do you blame him? we tried to tell you. you did not want to listen. so he decided to play with you. where is your sense of humor. YEESH. Thank goodness his eye surgeon has a sense of humor. My son got a tshirt that said "it was all fun and games till the flying monekys take your eye" with stick people and stick monkeys, and yes, my son wore THAT to eye docs office-----eye doctor walked in room and immediately burst out LOL. ANYONE who works with kids, they NEED to um...know something about kids.....they need to have a sense of humor but they also need to be aware that not everyone does have a sense of humor and some kids do take things quite literally, very seriously, and other kids will be playful, mischievous etc. BUT at the same time, they also do need to give the kids respect. If you do not give my kid respect? I am not gonna demand my kid give you respect. My kid does not have to EARN your respect from the start-----we command your respect becuz we HIRED you - now yes, if my kid causes you to no longer respect him, thats different BUT.....I do not care WHAT my kids diagnosis is- you start off giving him respect. But before you start makeing puns or being sarcastic etc, you need to know how the client/patient is going to perceive it. and unless you have that kind of rapport, then if you are in a professional relationship- you need to behave accordingly. [/QUOTE]
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