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Every interaction escalates to a blow up fight..what do we do, not talk to difficult child ever?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 596140" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok, he is WAY too young to think personality disorder. That's not useful and probably not what is going on. Also, this is not about your parenting. It's easy to be calm and easygoing when your child acts like a normal child should act. Don't compare yourself to other moms. You aren't like them and he's not like other kids, but you DID NOT cause his problems. Now a few questions and comments:</p><p></p><p>Has this child ever been evaluated to see if he has any sort of childhood disorder? I can't and won't try to diagnose, but he does have some red flags for high functioning autism. Maybe he has it, maybe not, b ut you need to find out. That would probably help you more than our spur-of-the-moment tips because unless you know WHY he is doing what he is, you can't change it. I suggest taking him to see a neuropsychologist which is usually a 6-8 hr. complete evaluation. While you are waiting to have that done, as there are waiting lists, I would take him to an audiologist to test his hearing and possible hearing disorders (which is not the same as poor hearing). He could have processing problems, which go along with many childhood disorders, although that is rarely the only issue going on. If you don't evaluate him, you will have no idea why he is acting like he does and, as your mommy heart knows, he is not like other kids (huggies!!!)</p><p></p><p></p><p>You can not discipline or love him out of it. And it probably won't get better on it's own. And your family is in turmoil because a member is, and he is not well understood yet either. Things should improve once everyone understands why he can't behave. yes, I said "can't."</p><p></p><p>You would also help us if you'd tell us about his early years, like if he had very chaotic early years or you had a difficult pregnancy or if he is adopted or if he saw abuse or if there are any psyschiatric or neurological issues on either side of his genetic (DNA) family tree. </p><p></p><p>Most of our k ids do not respond to typical parenting and they all have different problems and different solutions so in my opinion the best thing you can do for your son (and for yourself) is to seek out an evaluation. He deserves it and so do you.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board, although very sorry you have to be here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 596140, member: 1550"] Ok, he is WAY too young to think personality disorder. That's not useful and probably not what is going on. Also, this is not about your parenting. It's easy to be calm and easygoing when your child acts like a normal child should act. Don't compare yourself to other moms. You aren't like them and he's not like other kids, but you DID NOT cause his problems. Now a few questions and comments: Has this child ever been evaluated to see if he has any sort of childhood disorder? I can't and won't try to diagnose, but he does have some red flags for high functioning autism. Maybe he has it, maybe not, b ut you need to find out. That would probably help you more than our spur-of-the-moment tips because unless you know WHY he is doing what he is, you can't change it. I suggest taking him to see a neuropsychologist which is usually a 6-8 hr. complete evaluation. While you are waiting to have that done, as there are waiting lists, I would take him to an audiologist to test his hearing and possible hearing disorders (which is not the same as poor hearing). He could have processing problems, which go along with many childhood disorders, although that is rarely the only issue going on. If you don't evaluate him, you will have no idea why he is acting like he does and, as your mommy heart knows, he is not like other kids (huggies!!!) You can not discipline or love him out of it. And it probably won't get better on it's own. And your family is in turmoil because a member is, and he is not well understood yet either. Things should improve once everyone understands why he can't behave. yes, I said "can't." You would also help us if you'd tell us about his early years, like if he had very chaotic early years or you had a difficult pregnancy or if he is adopted or if he saw abuse or if there are any psyschiatric or neurological issues on either side of his genetic (DNA) family tree. Most of our k ids do not respond to typical parenting and they all have different problems and different solutions so in my opinion the best thing you can do for your son (and for yourself) is to seek out an evaluation. He deserves it and so do you. Welcome to the board, although very sorry you have to be here. [/QUOTE]
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